[Mominalberta]

Hi,
We are foster /adopt. Good chance it will go pgo for our baby that we are fostering. Does anyone have experiance with permancy planner? Do they look at placing her with a sibling that she has never met(adopted) or do they look at the foster parents first where she has that attachment? Please reply.THanks.

[Cristi727]

They look at what is in the best interest of the child. If she is attached to you and your family it would therefor be in her best interest to remain with you.

Good luck with everything!

[Yash]

It has been my experience that before they place a child they try to contact all immediate relatives for placement and also the adoptive families of all the child's siblings. If they can't immediately find someone, they place the child with a non-relative, but sometimes continue trying to find family members or other siblings.

[Withay]

Yash is right. They will first look at the family that has adopted her siblings to see if they are interested. If they are, they will be given first option. If not, then you will be considered. This is all after the relative search has been done.

There are cases where, even though the family that has adopted the siblings wants the new baby, but the committee (or judge) decides that the child should remain with the foster family. You never truly know until it happens.

Two cases I know of come to mind. In both the foster family wanted to adopt the child.

In case one, the siblings never knew of the existence of the child. Even though that was the case, the committee decided that "a potential" relationship with these unknown (and unknowing) siblings was far more important than the bonding and attachment that had taken place over the 11 months of the new ones life. That child was placed in the adoptive home of the bio sibs.

In the second case, which had almost an identical scenario, the committee decided that the child should be adopted by the foster family.

Both foster families had the same adoption worker. You never can tell what will happen.

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by Yash

It has been my experience that before they place a child they try to contact all immediate relatives for placement and also the adoptive families of all the child's siblings. If they can't immediately find someone, they place the child with a non-relative, but sometimes continue trying to find family members or other siblings.

THis is my understanding as well. We were FTA waiting in Alberta but were placed through a private agency first so we never had a placement. But this is what our prep classes and homestudy taught us... hope it works out for you!

[mijojosmom]

A lot also depends on how long this child has been with you. In our case there were two differenct blood-relatives who wanted to adopt our son. He had been in our from from 8 months old to beginning of adoption proceedings (about 16 months). Our judge stated that we were the only family he had ever really known and he would not move him from us...regardless of what relative came out of the woodwork.

[vernellinnj]

I can relate to the OPs angst. I have a FS who has a sibling in a separate home. I am unable to care for both but would live to adopt my FS.

I am more than willing to maintain the sibling relationship.

My case is nowhere near TPR so guess we wll have to just wait and see. AND, trust that God is ultimately in control....

Good luck.