[RainDrops]

Well, we're almost done with our first adoption packet the worker sent us. With everything going on in real life, its hard to keep up with simple things like paper work it seems! On top, making doctors appts, and they're making us get another life scan! I really cant wait for this to be over with! Its hard having someone tell you what you can and can not do with your kids also!

Having two toddlers drop out of the sky and into my life has been so challenging - sometimes i still think, "do i really want to do this". Anyone else feel that way?

Also - anyone have suggestions for activities for an over active 3 year old girl? My son is 19 months - any suggestions for activities?

What should a day be like with 2 children this age? The 3 year old goes to school for 3 hours a day.

What is your schedule like? (im a stay home mom)

[Kelly Rae]

Its normal to be ambivalent at times. Your whole life has changed and your trying to get a new rhythm. Some people even go through post adoption depression.

A schedule of sorts can be helpful to all. A time for bed, getting up, and naps is a start. A 3 year old needs time outdoors to run off steam. We have colors and paper always available to our 3 year old. We also read a lot and have a book shelf 3 book shelfs down low for him. I have always stored all our toys in clear bins in the garage. I bring in a new bin everyday the bins are organized into themes farm animal, dinosaurs,blocks, legos, whatever. Kids play better if their aren't a jumble of unrelated toys. My kids look forward to seeing what bin comes in. When younger siblings go down for their nap I bring in a bin for the older kids with small pieces. Building blocks are always available at our house as well as dress-up-clothes. Take walks with your 19 month old.

Do you belong to a mothers group? They can be very enjoyable for you and your kids. Their are also many programs that are available for mommy and toddlers try one. Enjoy toddlerhood passes very fast.

[RainDrops]

Thank you for that. Yeah we have most of things going on. I dont do a mothers group - i live on an air force base and find a lot of the wives - there is a lot of drama.

With my 3 year old, she is very clingy - it seems no matter what i do. She has a hard time playing on her own - constantly in my face, mommy mommy mommy.

I am glad to hear im not the only one going through so much shock though - I know things will get better as we go and ill adjust more and so will they. The 19 month is doing really well, its like he hasnt been anywhere but with us.

[leenab]

Just a fyi: I'm not sure what your state's confidentiality agreement is like. But in my state we can not post photos of children on the internet prior to finalization.