[merrymissy]

Anyone here know of anyone that has done a two-parent adoption? One where neither of the parents is biological, but still wishes to adopt a child together as a couple. I know that is the way many same-sex couples can adopt legally in some states. But does anyone have any knowledge of this with a heterosexual couple who wish to not be married but have shared many family years together already?

Also, anyone ever known of an parent who signs custody over to the other parent, and then the parent that relinquished custody does not have any contact with the child through their own choice? Is that considered abandonment after 6 months? Especially if the child agrees to not want to see the parent who gave up on them.

Thanks for your help! Can't think of anywhere else where somebody might know!

[~*Max*~]

I don't know the answer but am curious - does the child agree to not want to see the parent or simply does not want to?

[5starday]

We met a gay couple while we were completing our fostering classes. Theie adoption had to be processed through one of them first. Then, they had to go through the process all over again with the other. They could not simultaneously adopt.

Seems like this is what you may have to go through. We were told that the adoptive mother's name always goes first, so you would have to adopt first and then your significant other.