[number2mom]

Hi,
Can anyone share with me your experience going to committee?? We are going for a little boy this month and I would like to be some what prepared. We are having our "interview" in a couple of days. Please help! Thank you

[mallory4]

Number2mom,

Our interview lasted about an hour and a half. The head of the county's adoption program and another social worker interviewed us.

They filled us in with what info they had about the little boy (not much at all, and they left out some of the scary stuff they DID know). They did not have a picture of him. It seems their main concern was making sure we understood that it would be a legal risk placement and it could end up with the little boy being sent to live with biofamily.

They asked us why we wanted to adopt, why we wanted to do foster/adopt, and how our children and other family members felt about it. They asked about our family schedule and how we would incorporate another child into it.

They had asked us to bring photos or video of our children (we already had 3 biokids), so we brought the photo album. They looked through it.

At the interview, they were non-commital--they didn't say yes or no about whether they would place him with us. They called us a couple of days later to say he would be placed with us, and a week later he was here.

According to our social worker, the person who interviewed us has really grilled some of her families during the interview--asked very personal questions and kind of raked them over the coals. That didn't happen with us, don't know why.

During the interview, I asked very specific questions about the boy and his legal situation. Even so, the answers they gave in the interview and what they said after he was placed were very different, so I don't think you can rely on anything they say to you.

Good luck, it is a nerve-wracking process!