[jamie3]

We just had a homevisit and their worker has told us that the adoption has been placed on hold. The maternal grandmother is pushing to have a home study done and so they are going to explore that option before anything else can be done about the case. We won't know the outcome for weeks.

I am shaking all over.

[spitzlvr]

Oh Jamie! I am a lurker to your other thread where you were struggling with a decision on adopting. And now this!

Oh honey, I don't know what to say, but please know I am with you in spirit. I can't imagine this happening now!

I am going to have faith that this will work out. (Just like I had faith in you making the correct decision for your family when you were deciding if you were going to adopt them).

1 thought - since they have been with you so long, and formed a bond, I would think staying with you would be in the better interest of the children.



Mary

[spaypets]

Sweetie, I am so sorry. How old is the grandmother? Is it possible to negotiate some sort of visitation? Perhaps that's her motivation for wanting custody--she's afraid she'll lose contact.

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

[Fatcat]

Jamie,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I know you love those little guys. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

Dana

[mckenna]

i am so sorry to hear that. has the tpr already gone through? i thought it had. if it has, make sure you look into your rights further. i hope the boys can stay in your family

[mj77]

(((HUGS)))

Jamie, I am so sorry this news has been brought on you. I will be praying for the best outcome for you.

Melissa

[jamie3]

The tpr hearing was in February. Their case was supposed to be transferred out of foster care to the adoption unit yesterday, but they have now decided that maybe they should allow the grandmother the homestudy she has been requesting for the past year. I don't know how old the grandmother is, but she has a 7 year old daughter. Their cw doesn't think the gf can pass the criminal background. I wish they would have done this BEFORE they put the boys in an adoptive home.

If they take them, it will really be bad for R. since everyone has promised him that this is his forever home.

[spaypets]

Oh Jamie that's just unbelievable. I so feel for you and the boys. Do they have contact with the grandmother? Why weren't the boys place with her to begin with?

Is there anyway you could fight to keep them?

[heidi and co.]

Just a thought as we have been in your position before. You have the right to request a Bonding Assessment of all parties involved. Best wishes.

[jamie3]

The boys have not had any contact with the gm since October I think. They don't remember anything about her. I have never heard them talk about her in the 6 months I have had them. I think that we might have a legal standing after the 6 month mark which is August 4.

The cw told me that she was dreading telling me about it. She said that she doesn't think they can pass the criminal background, but it is too early to tell. I just can't get over the fact that the gm was asking for them to do this months and months ago but they blew her off. Now it may come back to bite all of us in the butt. Why didn't they just take of this in the beginning instead of waiting until the adoption was about to be finalized? I bet it takes a few months to get this sorted out. I was afraid this was going to easy. Now the other shoe has dropped.

[jamie3]

Heidi:

Can you expound on that?

[heidi and co.]

Jamie, feel free to pm me. We have ALOT in common re your situation.

[tlc4kidz]

Jamie, You have been on my mind lately and was wondering where you've been. I'm SO sorry you are going through this. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as well as your family. Please keep us posted as you get more info or need support.

[jamie3]

What do you think about this?


A grandparent may file an original suit affecting the parent-child relationship at any time if the grandparent falls within one of the categories of persons listed in Texas Family Code Ann. § 102.003(a) (Vernon Supp. 2001). The following categories may apply to a grandparent:

1.

A custodian or person having the right of visitation with or access to the child appointed by an order of a court of another state or country;
2.

A guardian of the person or of the estate of the child;
3.

A person, other than a foster parent, who has had actual care, control, and possession of the child for at least six months ending not more than ninety days preceding the date of the filing of the petition;
4.

A person designated as the managing conservator in a revoked or unrevoked affidavit of relinquishment under Code chapter 161 or to whom consent to adoption has been given in writing under Code chapter 162;
5.

A person with whom the child and the child’s guardian, managing conservator, or parent have resided for at least six months ending not more than ninety days preceding the date of the filing of the petition, if the child’s guardian, managing conservator, or parent is deceased at the time the petition is filed;
6.

A person who is the foster parent of a child placed by the Texas Department of Protective and Regulatory Services in the person’s home for at least twelve months ending not more than ninety days preceding the date of the filing of the petition; or
7.

A person who is a relative of the child within the third degree by consanguinity if the child’s parents are deceased at the time of the filing of the petition.

Texas Family Code § 102.003 (a)(3), (4), (9), (10), (11), (12), (13).

In computing the time necessary for standing under the provisions in items 3., 5., and 6. above, the court may not require that the time be continuous and uninterrupted but shall consider the child’s principal residence during the relevant time preceding the date the suit is begun. Texas Family Code § 102.003(b).

If the parent-child relationship between the child and every living parent of the child has been terminated, a grandparent related by blood, adoption, or marriage to a former parent whose parent-child relationship has been terminated or to the biological father of a child may not file an original suit. This limitation does not apply if the grandparent has a continuing right to possession of or access to the child under an existing court order or has the consent of the child’s managing conservator, guardian, or legal custodian to bring to suit. Texas Family Code § 102.006 (1996).

[Awaiting]

I am sorry to hear all this. I'm not up to date on all the threads. Were they all legally free on TPR when you dicided to adopt them?
Brandy