[cuddles]

I cant believe after all this time the aunt is finally visiting my foster son, she told her lawyer that she did not want us to adopt him or foster him any more because we have a 13 year old adopted little girl that had been molested by her birth mothers boyfriend when she was 2 and a half years old, and we fostered her when she was 3 she said she didn't want to worry about her nephew being touched by his foster sister he has been with us for over a year and they new about her because I told them and he has been in foster care since he was 6 weeks old we are his 4th foster home he has been in and they didn't want him then, and didn't care that he had been moved so many times now that Mom is signing off on him she said she will be taking him home, but her home study was denied but she got a lawyer to fight it she now gets to see him 2 times a week at the office once with his half brother that is 3 years old.
and the gal said she would not want to see the child go back to this birth family because they seem strange and uncaring about d
but now the aunt is video taping visits for the judge to prove that the child likes her this is the 5th time she has seen him in 16 months and spending all this money to get him now how wrong to wait all this time and do it now.
the grand parents have the brother but they did not want d to foster or adopt, the aunt works full time and not married no children, now we have a new case worker and she thinks the aunt is nice and thinks its great she is coming forward to take him but the judge and the Gal and the old case worker don't agree so I worry because she is spending money the new case worker will side with this aunt she has seen now 2 times.
when d was 6 weeks old they asked her if she would take him she said no she wanted to stay out of it this is the child's mothers older sister she is 38 so now they said we will be going to court in SEPT he will be 18 months old for TPR
I don't understand why they are letting her visit him when her home study was denied and she has even had her lawyer petition to be heard as a party to the child case and it was denied by the judge.
what are my chances that we will be able to be a family its so sad for every one in the family worrying about losing him. we told his birth family that they can still have a relation ship with d,
grand parents and his brother aunt and even his Mom but after a year why are they doing this trying to take him away from the only family he no's
the grand parent and Mom asked if I would adopt him if she didn't get him back and then I said yes and they said great.
they changed there mind because of my daughter I adopted 10 years ago she has never done any thing wrong to any one, it really makes me very angry at them for saying that about her .she loves him very much she has been a great sister to him, I wanted to keep it friendly but now I don't no how I can, I pray every day that God looks out for d and keeps him with us, I just needed to vent if you have any advice please send it my way.
thanks
sad worried and sick to my stomach

[riley6]

We had an aunt who was out of the picture for over a year. She popped her ugly head up after the tpr. At the appeal she told the judge she didn't have a chance to claim "HER kin". The sw told the judge there was no need to call her to take the kids after the first time she said no. W/out a home study even done, the judge awarded her custody. He over turned the tpr as well on the younger kids. He said mommy had learned her lesson on the older three, maybe she could do better now with the aunt's help. Yeah right. I just hope you don't get one of these judges who believe blood is thicker than water...and means EVERYTHING.

In most likelihood, if the aunt was given a homestudy and didn't pass, depending on the reason, the judge won't even consider her as a viable option for placement. My younger kids' gma tried to get custody of my kids, but bc she had her own kids taken into fc when they were young, and she was on state assistance for disability due to mental health issues, plus SSI from the feds, DCFS wouldn't approve her for placement. She appealed to two levels up and was denied custody all the way. Most likely this is what will happen in your case, just be prepared for anything though, especially when they hire their own lawyer.

Good luck to you! Has your 13 yr old been in therapy to deal with her sexual abuse? If not, you should get her in.