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Originally Posted By Shani

My husband and I after waiting for two and half years for a child/children with rights already terminated finally agreed to a legal risk adoption. At the end of June we had twin two year old boys who are half African American and Caucasion placed with us. Since then we have completely bonded with them, they have adjusted and bonded quite well. We are supposed to go for termination mid Feb. In Nov, the judge all of a sudden gave the biological mother 3 hour weekly visits, since then she has been consistent and now wants them back. The children have NO bond with her and have never lived with her, they think of us as their parents. We are completely terrified of losing them and wonder if anyone has any advice or info. Thank you.

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Originally Posted By Traci

Hang in there! My experience with foster care especially a long time fostered situation. The mother will soon get tired of the 3 hour visits and stop showing up. I am praying for you

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Originally Posted By Debra

I know how you feel. I was the foster and potential adoptive parent of twin boys who were placed with me straight out of the hospital. Mom never had a bond with the boys, however when she found out the county would pay for her housing if she would reunify, she suddenly wanted them back. We had the twins for 22 months before they went home. The TPR should have been held many times along the way but kept getting posponed due to social worker error. It was heartbreaking to see my boys leave. This was 2 years ago, and I recently heard they were back in the foster care system. I am now in the final stages of a legal risk adoption of a beautiful baby girl who I have also had since birth. Her TPR went smoothly and my adoption should be final in a few more months. Feel free to contact me if you need aditional support. reynaud@pacbell.net
p.s.- I even went so far as to obtain DeFacto Parental status in the first case and I hired a lawyer. $4,000 later I learned, the system always wins not necessarily the children.

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Originally Posted By Mia

our tpr trial is in the spring and i am already scared! we have a pre-trial hearing in a couple of weeks though. it's the result of a guardianship complaint. this is our first time trying to adopt through foster and we are groping around in the dark. can anybody offer some knowledge? thanks!

Mia