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Originally Posted By Amy

To everyone who responded to my question- thanks for your honesty! Besides the fact that I work for a child-welfare/adoption agency, my partner and I have been looking into adoption for ourselves . In trying to decide where the most need is, I started looking into my state's foster care system. Those kids need homes too, and I'm not so inclined to adopt a caucasian newborn/infant. In my agency, we have two huge binders of kids who are waiting for forever families. Yes, they may have "issues" but that makes me want to parent them even more! It breaks my heart to look at those faces and realize that this book has been browsed through by many families considering adoption, but they were, once again, passed up for whatever reason. Adoption is such a personal choice, and although I am not infertile (that I know of), I would love to bring a hard-to-place child in my home to nurture. And in regards to my judgement of the clients I work with,my intention is not to criticize their choice of words, but rather to enlighten myself as to what their true intentions really are. It's too personal a question to ask a family when your relationship soley involves phone contact, so I thought this board would be a good place to get different opinions. I also have a half-sister out there who was placed for adoption by my Mom in 1968, so adoption touches me in other ways, too. I also can't wait for the day when adopting an African-American, Hispanic, American-Indian child is as desirable as adopting a caucasian or Asian child. Thanks for reading.