[6kidsforme]

Our daughter was with us for almost 11 months. The bmom did not want the baby, the bdad did but he has no job, never offered support, he is truly a horrible person (I can't get into specifics). ANyway, the baby stayed here lnmost since birth and yesterday the judge ruled that she go with the birth father.
I am looking for support groups, has anyone joined one for "foster" parents or parents grieving over a failed adoption after so long?
As you can imaginem the pain is unbearable. Thankfully we have 7 other children, but they are grieving something fierce too.

Thank you.

[Shelly77]

I don't have any advice but I'll keep you in my prayers

[brl]

We started fostering T. when he was six months old. I dropped him off at his dads house when he was over 2 years old. I had done that numerous times with toddlers, but never with a baby.

I finally broke down and joined a grief support class at church for people who lost a loved one. They allowed me to join.

That helped. posting helped also. I wrote things down so I could remember him etc..

With my own child I just tried to put on a good face and help him get over it also.

sorry for your pain, just remember you did what she needed when she needed it.

[Mumofmanee]

I truly feel your pain and wish I had some answers. I got a little girl in foster at 3 days old, she is now 18 months and within the next few weeks will be moving home. It is killing me already, I know I'll have to find a support group.