[kaydee76]

After a disastrous first match that we had to walk away from (due to finding out about a lot of lies and legal risks), we were matched again in May and thought we had found a really good situation. Baby was born last week, and we were never even allowed to go to the hospital once we got into the area (a blessing, in hindsight, as I'm sure I'd feel 10 times worse if I'd ever seen and held that baby). We lost thousands of dollars this time, and we're back at square one. Again. I am finding it really hard to keep doing this after losing the entire year to two situations that didn't work out. From the very start, we wanted a very open adoption and a good relationship with the birth family, but at this point, I don't feel like I can trust anyone anymore, and I'm hoping that we might be matched with a baby who is already born...

Not really looking for anything here. There's just no one I know who really understands what I'm going through right now.

[Withay]

I'm so sorry.

[EZ2Luv]

Oh Sweetie, let me first offer you a ((HUG)). I am so very sorry that you have had to endure yet another failed match. There are others here who have walked in your shoes and know how the heartache is.
A very nice woman who posts here has done baby born situations for this reason.
I will keep you in my prayers. I know you probably don't want to hear it right now, but God has a baby that is truly meant to be yours. I pray that baby finds your loving arms with a quickness.

EZ

[prayn4baby]

I am so sorry to hear of your losses..we also had 2 failed adoptions in 7mths where we lost alot of money & part of our hearts...Our prayers are with you & one day you will have the baby that was meant to be yours.

[sugarmuffin]

You are in the right place amongst people who understand. The fact that you are here shows proves you are strong woman who simply just isn't giving in to pain. Move a little closer and let me give you a big, big hug!! I will not say much because at this point you have heard it all.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

[jamesandtiffanyadopt]

Hi, We were in your shoes just a few short months ago. We had 4 failed matches in 22 months. We finally found a good agency that did a good, solid match, excellent birthmother counseling and they handled our emotions very well. Feel free to email me at tstep319@yahoo.com if you want to chat privately. We have been parents for 3 months now to the most perfect, precious little girl and while I don't enjoy looking back at our long rocky journey to her, I am grateful that we got HER. Best wishes and prayers. Shutterfly is our website.Shutterfly

New to the forum, looking for support. Just had a failed adoption, after meeting with the birth mom a few times. Our plan was for a fully open adoption, with frequent letters and several visits a year. Without going into all of the details, it was a bad scene all around. We found out birth mom had deeper issues than we knew about. She decided to parent herself, but her issues were such the state child protective agency in the state involved were called. I can respect a birth mom changing her mind, but the other issues make the hurt worse for me. We are charging ahead, and hope for a new match soon, but it is heartbreaking. Not sure I can do it again if we have another failure.