[2Bulgarianbeauties]

I keep wondering how Christie is doing. She seemed to just disappear. I checked her profile, and she was online in September, but never posted anything.

Does anyone know what happened with Christie's husband being sick and her adoption still not finalized?

Thanks

Kay

[ContactChar]

I've been wondering the same thing. I only get to pop on here on rare occasion, but I haven't seen anything from Christie in forever. Christie- If you're out there, you and your family are on my mind!

[joskids]

Must be this time of year or something. I also thought about Christie the other day. Thinking that last time we spoke, she was going day by day regarding her child, hoping he would always be with her.

[joskids]

Ladies - I just sent an e-mail to Christie and asked her to respond and let all of us know she's doing well, which she appears to be. Hopefully you'll all hear from her.

We all have so much to celebrate and be thankful for.

Yours,
Josie

[ChristieS]

Hi My Sweet Friends,

Yes, I am here but have not been on board much. Thank you for continuing to think of me.

I guess I have not been writing because everything remains the same and there is simply nothing else I can think of to do. The best news is that my son remains with me and my husband. I hired another lawyer to try and fix things, paid him too much money, got the run-around for a year and plenty of initial promises but no answers.

I have begun a PhD program and this causes me to be away from my son a few days a week but is also a terrific thing in so many ways. My son has been handling it even better than I had expected so that helps the most. The only deal-breaker for school would have been any difficulties he might have. We still live in the same place but I have a small apartment on campus and travel back and forth weekly.

I am very proud to have been accepted into a World-renowned PhD program in Instructional Systems. I am working very hard and so far am doing very well.

My DH's health is fine for now although he still says he is not able to work.

My son is winning award after award at school and has been placed in an accelerated program where he also won the top award for that. I am a proud Momma!!!

I have to make a choice: Do I go hire yet another lawyer to finalize things legally or do I accept that she really does not want him, does not want to see him, and wait for her to make the next move? VERY scary if I wait for her - but I have been through so many lawyers and even my last one (so full of promise and &*^&%%) took my money and delivered nothing yet again.

So for today I will concentrate on my son, my job, and my education and try to move forward with my life understanding that things are not wrapped up all nice and neat but I can have a good life anyway. Each day I make a conscious choice what to do about this adoption. It is sad that I wake up every morning and spend precious time deciding if I should call a lawyer today - or not. It is sad that ....... well, I can't get into the whole thing about all of this or it will not be a good day for me.

Please know, my sweet Friends, that I also think of you, that I really appreciate your thinking of me, that sometimes I feel overwhelmed because this is something I live with every day and see no ending to, but that I am doing the very best I can do to move my life forward, love my son, and I am actively doing things to ensure us a better future.

At least now I wake up and think One day..........
And I am able to smile about that.

My love to each of you.

Christie

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

Christie, I am so glad to hear that you are moving forward for yourself. I have thought of you often and was always so sad to see the pain you were in. I am really proud of you for moving on and accomplishing something with your life. You are right, your adoption may not be wrapped up with a nice bow on it, but he is your son.

Congratulations,

Kay

[ChristieS]

Originally Posted by 2Bulgarianbeauties

Christie, I am so glad to hear that you are moving forward for yourself. I have thought of you often and was always so sad to see the pain you were in. I am really proud of you for moving on and accomplishing something with your life. You are right, your adoption may not be wrapped up with a nice bow on it, but he is your son.

Congratulations,

Kay

As always you are an inspiration and great support to me.

[daddysangel]

Hi Christie,

I am sorry we have not had time to stay in touch,But with all you have going on I am sure you understand.

That is all we can do is move on. We have been dealing with this now for 5yrs and thought an end was near when the BF did not follow through with anything that he was suppose to do through mediation.The courts response was continue as planned.We have come to the conclusion that the courts want this man to have this girl regardless of who he is or what he does. She is now 10 yrs old and we figure a few more yrs and she will end it herself.

Stay healthy and everyday that passes is another day behind you and one day closer to an end.

Love ya & GOD BLESS

[joskids]

daddysangel - good to hear from you also, although I wish the news was more positive. At what age do you think the court will consider your daughter and her own opinion in the custody issue? I'd think at the age of 10, they must at least HAVE to consider what she has to say. Geesh, this is just too ridiculous to believe. I'm sure you tell yourself this every day. Hang in there. Like you said - every day is one day closer to the end of all of this.

[daddysangel]

Yes it is so crazy they will not even listen to her at all. He was suppose to call every Thurs during mediation and he called about 4 times. We would ask her if she wanted to talk to him and she said no. On her birthday it was a thurs and he never called nor send her not even a Bcard. When he did not show up for mediation the mediator closed the case and turned her repoart into the court. His attorney said we were not letting him talk to her and the judge ruled more medation and that we were to have her in NC over Thanksgiving and Christmas. Everything he did not do meant nothing. Our attorneys advice= Lets ride it out because his attorney is retireing and his next attorney may be an honest one and to make sure we force her to talk to him.
We had a long talk with DD and the next time he called she talked and then cryed afterwards and asked why we were making her do it. We told her that if she does not want to talk to him she would have to tell him that herself. The next time he called she said with a terrified little voice"I have something to tell you- I do not want to talk to you". She started crying and handed the phone to DW and he told her that she better get used to it because she will be living with him soon.He was very very rude and angry.
He has called since and assured us that he does not want to disrupt her and that he has no intention of her coming to live with him. Just wants a relationship with her and if she is eighteen when that happens so be it. We will see how honest he is about that. He will never sign anything paper wise.

We figure maybe 12 to 14 yrs old we will look into getting her an attorney and having her file her own case in OH. We do not need any paper to feel like she is our DD nor does she. We just want the security of knowing that the crazy court system in NC can not pull anything to remove her.

That is where we stand. I pray that anyone going through this type of thing has more luck and a court system that will look at the child instead of a man that was absent from her life for the first 6 yrs.

GOD BLESS