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Old 03-30-2008, 02:35 AM
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Unhappy Back on the Roller Coaster


Hi My Sweet Friends,

First I want you to know that even when I am not active on the board I still keep up with you and still love and appreciate you.

We had been hopeful regarding some developments in our case. Suffice it to say that there has been another turn-around and it is distressing. (roadblock)

I want so badly to tell you what has happened but am afraid to on an open board. I want your advice and encouragement and ideas. I am struggling with this new stuff. So maybe I can just ask for prayers? It is hard right now.

I also want to know how you are doing. Daddysangel? Josie? MamaS? StacyKelly2? Char? Anyone else?
SadMomma - I am very happy for you.

It is so nice to be able to come here. Thank you.

ChristieS

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Old 03-31-2008, 10:52 AM
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Although I haven't posted on your threads in a while, I've been following your journey and struggles. My prayers are with you and your family.
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Old 04-01-2008, 05:12 AM
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Christie, don't log onto this forum much anymore. Just got disgusted with some of the "attitudes". Saw your recent post. Feel free to PM me.

Our family is doing well. Just waiting for Spring!!!

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Old 04-03-2008, 03:22 AM
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Hi Christie

Feel free to contact us any way you want.

We went to mediation in Nov 07 and set all the guidelines letting the Bfather set those guidelines.We felt that as long as DD would remain with us he might as well tell us what he wanted and wanted to do.

We did this until our next mediation which was in March of 08.

He wanted to build a relationship with her and we absolutely have no problem with that. He wanted to call and talk to her (If she was willing) every Thursday before 8pm. We told him call any day of the week or any time unless she was in bed.

Between Nov.- March he called one time and that was at 9:30 at night.

Our attorney says just ride it out and let him show the courts that he has no interest.

March he had many excuses and our next mediation is in July.The march one was on a Weds. and on Thurs the very next day NO CALL.

We told him and mediation that he is damaging her because she is 9 yrs old and smart enough to know what no call means.She needs closure.We figure a couple more times of mediation and then we will take it to court down there and remove him from her life.

He has every opportunity to be a part of her life and by his actions shows he is not interested but still wants to control the situation. Well he is messing around with a true parent and we will only stand by for so long before we take control so as to give this girl what she wants.

Keep in touch and you know how to get ahold of us.


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Old 04-03-2008, 07:54 AM
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Christie - You have been in my thoughts and your family is still on the prayer list at our church. Feel free to PM me. I hesitated to contact you knowing how overwhelmed you must be.
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Old 04-03-2008, 12:17 PM
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Christie,

I have thought about you a lot and knew it was quiet.

I will keep you in prayer.

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Christie,

You are always in my thoughts and prayers, even though I don't log on much anymore. You will survive this roadblock. YOU WILL!!

Take care,

Char
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Old 04-05-2008, 01:17 PM
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I'm sorry you have hit a roadblock, I hope it is temporary. I will keep your family in my thoughts.
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Old 04-07-2008, 09:15 PM
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Thank you all!

Your support and encouragement mean so much to me.

All the work I have done for the last three years - all bringing me to a particular point - seems to have vanished like a dream. Everything was legal, in order, planned, and ready to be executed - only to find out now that it may be impossible.

Don't get me wrong - I will NEVER give up. It just looks right now like there is absolutely no hope for closure. The LAWS say there is - the reality is that everything is falling through.

Do I dare hire yet another lawyer? I have been jerked around by 5 (FIVE!) so far. And my lawyer who was going to finally "fix" all this has pulled out.

Is this really the country where we have a constitution and laws? How can this be? How can they make this go on? What do I do?

Thank you for listening my sweet friends.

CS
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