[SadMomma]

Ok here I go again but I still haven't lost all hope. I called the bmom's cousin yesterday and in hopes to see what happen over the weekend. I learned a lot and was able to talk to her today and express our desires to still adopt our/ the bmom's son. I asked would she support that and she said whatever the bmom wanted she would. She said had the agency just told them he was in a loving home they never would have come to get him. There were made to believe he was in "foster care" in the orphange sense and the agency told them no different. So we are meeting tonight with the cousin and bmom, and she is letting him stay with us a few days. Over this time we will talk about the future and how we can make this work. She is still interested in us adopting him.

[joskids]

Please keep us posted as soon as you know more. I know that having him for even a couple of days is at least a chance to hold and hug him again. I know that in some ways it makes things more difficult for you emotionally, though. I will be thinking of you in the next couple of days. Stay strong.

Josie

[ChristieS]

Originally Posted by SadMomma

Ok here I go again but I still haven't lost all hope. I called the bmom's cousin yesterday and in hopes to see what happen over the weekend. I learned a lot and was able to talk to her today and express our desires to still adopt our/ the bmom's son. I asked would she support that and she said whatever the bmom wanted she would. She said had the agency just told them he was in a loving home they never would have come to get him. There were made to believe he was in "foster care" in the orphange sense and the agency told them no different. So we are meeting tonight with the cousin and bmom, and she is letting him stay with us a few days. Over this time we will talk about the future and how we can make this work. She is still interested in us adopting him.

WOW! Quite a turnaround. Please keep us posted.

Prayers for you...

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[SadMomma]

Well we didn't pick him up, a lot of drama. But we did spend time with some of the family and we talked to our son on the phone. All is not loss. The family is meeting today and I hope to get an update tonight. Also some of the family will be coming to church with me and even one member of the family is a former member of my church. Small world. Just about the entire family wants us to take care of our son, but 1 person.

[ContactChar]

Wow SadMomma. . . what a whirlwind! I am holding out hope that things turn out well for you and your son. Who is the one person who doesn't want the adoption? Do you know his or her reasons? How does the birthmom feel?

[Jaefer]

What a whirlwind for you SadMomma! I know that the not knowing and getting so close to your baby is probably agonizing but I am so hopeful that he will be returned to you. Stay strong and try to keep your sanity! My prayers are with you!!!

[shy_bear]

Granted we did not adopt in MI, but with our first daughter her birthmom was not terminated for almost 6 months. Why?? The bf had to be located and b/c he was a minor they wanted him to appear in court. His mom would not let him. So it went on and on. The agency's logic was if he should step up and say he wants to parent and birthmom is already terminated then he would get the baby and she would have no rights to the child. They were trying to protect her and the child. If I am reading your post correctly it sounds like the agency did the correct thing in NOT terminating birthmom till the bf situation was resolved. I know that is not what you want to hear. . I don't think you have any legal grounds here, but it never hurts to contact an adoption attorney and see what he/she thinks.
I am so sorry for your loss; I can not imagine how you are feeling right now, but coming here and finding comfort among those who have been down this road is a good start.

[SadMomma]

I think our issue is a father made claim to the baby in the hospital and also started the adoption process along with the bmom. He also is on the BC. They both disappeared for months so they both basically abandoned the baby. The Bmom later came back and said ok it is someone else, but our issue is why didn't the agency verfiy the father that claimed PT wasn't the dad. There could have been a point where they went and said these 2 parents are not showing up what should we do next. But the agency never went to court to even try, nor did they file paperwork saying that he was in our care.

[SadMomma]

I don't think I can fight this anymore. I talked to bmom today and she said she would like us to be Godparents. WE have been up and down and up and down, so at some point I need to take control. Please pray for me and my family.

[joskids]

Praying, honey, for your family, for baby boy, for his birthmother who appears to be very uncertain. I know you must feel like giving up. Please stay strong. I so understsand.

Your friend,
Josie

[daddysangel]

Originally Posted by SadMomma

I don't think I can fight this anymore.

I KNOW!!

Praying for you and your family.

All I can pray for is

FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND

GOD BLESS

[dawnrenee58]

Where in Michigan do you live? I am in the Kalamazoo area. If you are anywhere near, we could get together for a cup of coffee, just to distract you for a few minutes, if you'd like. I am also in Grand Rapids and Muskegon a lot, in case you live there. I know what it is like to be going through a dark time in your life, and be stuck at home around all the reminders. Let me know if you need a shoulder!

Dawn

[SadMomma]

I am in the Canton/ Ann Arbor ARea. Thank you for the invite. Yes we have a lot of reminders. I am still looking at his pictures on my desk. From my 1st failed adoption I got the picture the bmom's little girl drew for me. I am becoming a failed adoption collection place. It is hard just hard.

[StacyKelly2]

My heart goes out to you. Coming on this board will give you a lot of support at this much needed time. Being in a contested adoption I feel your heartache and pain. I wish I could find the right words to say...but nothing can take away your pain. Just pray to God to give you strength. Adoption is such a scary process...but keep in mind your angel is out there...Pray to St. Jude the Saint of hopeless cases...May God grant you peace...

[kelceesmom]

Sorry to hear of your heart ache. I know it is a very difficult and confusing time for you right now. I pray you find the strength you need to get through this and move on to your future child.