[ContactChar]

Does anyone know if there are any books or pamphlets re: dealing with adoption loss after placement? I have a vague sense that there are resources in the older child arena for parents who have to make the decision to disrupt a placement. What about for those facing disruption after a birthmom changes her mind? Is there anything??

[ChristieS]

Hi ContactChar,

You must be in unimaginable pain. I have read your past posts and my heart cries for you. I wish I knew of some books which could help you heal - but I don't. I have read countless books on loss, bereavement, P.T.S.D., etc. - but no matter what happens or what you read, or what you do, your heart breaks and time will help.

I do know that posting on this forum and receiving support can help. Antidepressants can help if you are in a state of depression (which most anyone would be after going through such a terrible loss) - and counseling can help as well.

I think it is mostly a process, and a long process, of pain and recovery. You really have to work through the pain as there is no way around it.

Be kind to yourself. Let yourself grieve. Try and slowly build hope back into your life.

Many of us are thinking of you and praying for you.

Christie