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03-21-2006, 10:53 AM
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understanding
I am savingangels daddy and had to put some input into what I have had a chance to read. I am proud of my wife and her sister for posting what they have.There are so many things that are so hard to understand.I cannot understand how a man can come into ANYONE'S life and never think about if it is the right thing to do or the wrong thing.How can I teach this precious little girl not to take candy from a stranger and then have her face a court system that might end up giving her life over to a stranger.How can I tell her that it would never happen when I am not sure it will not.How can I tell her (if it did happen) that everything will be alright when she knows this man as well as I do (we have never met).She is a living breathing 7 yr old that can think and have emotions and have goals.How can I tell her that someone else decided that she has to leave and her rights or thoughts have no bearing on it.How do I answer the question "but daddy I do not want to go". Will the judge do all this for me or the lawyers who are only interested in the rights of a man that has never attempted to met and greet this little girl? In the mean time we go on.I get up and check in on her because I know she will not see much of her daddy because I have to work from 3am to 6pm so that I can keep the money coming in to fund an adoption that( if the best interest of the child was first) would have been paid for by now and over with. Those are just a few of the things that I struggle with.I pray that when it is all over that she will still be the happy little girl she was and I can tell her and my wife that all we had to do is keep the faith in GOD that he believes this is were she belongs.May GOD open this mans eyes so that he can see along with feel.
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03-22-2006, 10:16 AM
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responding to savingangels daddy
Reading your post brough tears to my eyes. I can only imagine how you and your family must feel. Especially after all those years. I cannot imagine why this guy would want to disrupt this angels life after so much time. You and your family is all she knows you are her daddy and your wife her mommy. Children should not be placed on hold untill a parent decides its time to step back in. This little girl has looked up to only you guys for comfort, security, support and most of all unconditional love!! Just reading the post your words tell me the heartache you are feeling. I know myself from our situation the pain one suffers from not knowing what will happen next. The thought of losing someone who means the world to you is just unthinkable. Always believe in God trust in Him...through HIM all things are possible!!! God knows in your heart how much this angel means to you..The waiting is the hardest we are waiting ourselves. Its God's strength that keeps us all going..that and the endless love we have for our children!! Stay strong and know in your heart you are doing everything you can for your precious angel.I will keep you in my prayers...
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03-22-2006, 01:13 PM
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I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. As someone that also has experience a similar situation I understand the pain. I will keep you and my family in my prayers.
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03-22-2006, 09:06 PM
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I am sincerely sorry you have to go through this. We went through a contested adoption, I understand your fear and pain. When do you go to court?I will be praying for your family.
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When there is room in the heart, there is room in the home.
Lana Mommy to *Sarah 7/88* *Joshua (6/25/89-1/21/90)* *Daniel 4/90* *Jordan 9/91* *Timothy 4/93* *Paul 1/14/00 Finalized 11/15/2001* *Elijah Mark 6/16/05 Finalized 11/22/05*
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04-05-2006, 03:55 AM
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Going through the same thing and understand the pain and fear associated. My son is 4 and basically the bmom can just come up with a court order and get him back. We brought him home from the hospital. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. It is extremely difficult to grasp how this can even be possible. It affects bonding and personal feelings of all involved.
I'm sure you are doing everything you can to make sure your daughter feels secure - but that is sooooo hard when you don't even know yourself! I try hard to shield all of this from my son to minimize his own panic and suffering and worry over the future. I don't want to lie to him - but I do not want to tell him what is going on either. We are terrorized by the court system. Why can't our legislators see that and do something to save our children, and US, from the turmoil? I feel your pain and am so sorry for you. I will pray for you and send lovint thoughts to your whole family.
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04-10-2006, 10:41 AM
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I know exactly what you mean (see "is it ever over") My husband has been working 6 days a week to fund our adoption and both bio parents have free legal aid lawyers.
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04-10-2006, 03:18 PM
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Same situation with free legal aid - that is NOT where our tax dollars need to be going. I even filed with the State Treasury Department about this. Unbelievable!
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04-10-2006, 05:20 PM
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what gets me is we just want our granddaughter to be took care of and have a nice life. Sorry I don't mean to sound mean I guess I get bitter on Mondays
Last edited by grandmak : 04-10-2006 at 05:22 PM. Reason: misspelling
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