[Montyfam01]

Imagine getting married over 10 years ago. Going thru 3 corrective surgeries to deal with endometriosis. 2 Artificial inseminations, 2 IVF Procedures all with negative results and then finally we go for adoption and within the first try a failed placement (B/Mom decided to be mom). The second time a placement with a lovely baby girl. Then 9months later and after attempting to adopt. A contested adoption by a biological Father who failed to anything he was required to do to ascert his rights and then coming across a court situation in which the judiciary or at least this particular one decides he will not follow the present law of the state. Makes statements about the law and her disagreement with it and is now on a crusade to change the law at our expense. And the expense of this child who has for the last year grown to love us and we love her. Court order visits with a proctor who does not agree with the situation and the attorney assigned to represent the baby who does not agree with the situation.

What does one do ?

[Lynard1210]

I am so sorry for your situation. I feel very concerned for you. Does this mean bfather will get visitation or does this judge believe the child should be raised by the bfather, although the child is obviously bonded to you? If the latter is the case, the Court is very misguided. What happened to the best interest of the child standard. From what I understand, once you have the child, you are on a level playing field with a biological parent. I will pray for your family. Please let us know future updates.

[Lynard1210]

I just re-read your post. That is good news that the attorney or is it GAL representing the child does not agree. Hopefully, the atty/GAL will make a recommendation against the father and for you.

[Montyfam01]

Yes the judge feels that way and has granted him visitation. Fortunately for me he has not been attending as of late. He has missed 7 of the last 10. I don't believe its about the best interest anymore. It's about the judges personal bias. Unfortunately I would complain about this but the judge happens to be the head supervising judge.

[sneezyone]

Fortunately for you, the fact that biofather has missed so many of the scheduled visitations will probably force the judge to find another case to use for his/her crusade. It doesn't sound like this biofather is holding up his end of the deal. I'm sure this is incredibly stressful for you but it sounds like the stars are aligning in your favor. Be patient. Is there a time limit to how long the judge is giving this guy to establish a connection with the child? This "visitation" thing can't go on indefinitely. Missed 'proctored' visits are a waste of everyone's time and yours and taxpayers money.