[stacykelly]

Currently we have a beautiful five month old little boy...he is our whole world!! We longed for years to adopt.We thank God every day for letting us wake up...to see this angel's little smiling face!! We have been so blessed that his birthmom chose us - the chances of us ever adopting seemed very slim.Situations had came our way, but nothing really ever came out of them.When we were told through friends of friends that this birthmom was interested in us...words cannot express what emotional feelings stirred inside our hearts.Years of hopeful thinking,wishing,and years of prayers and dreams...finally might be coming true!!
We have had this angel since birth.Everything seemed to be going wonderful.We of course were still very worried about the birthmom or birthfather changing their minds.We knew only little of the birthfather however we were told he did not want the baby.Once the papers were given to the birthfather he cahnged his mind and would not consent to the adoption.We were devasted.During this whole pregnancy the birthfather made no attmepts to go to the doctor appointments, or even the delivery...which we atteded everytime.Then out of the blue the birthfather changed his mind - I was to have the papers redrawn back up..the birthfather realized the baby was better off with us.Words cannot express the sheer relief and joy that went through our hearts..we were so excited!!! Unfortunately, the papers were never received by the court house, which means he is still contesting the adoption.The birthmom has called him and he now says he is undecided.The baby is now five months old.If ever there was a test of love this has to be it...We love this baby more then anything in this world.As we understand any adoption decision cannot be easy, we also feel its so unfair to this baby.Bonding issues concern us so much!!! We are awaiting a trial date and just cannot believe how long this has dragged on.This guy has done NOTHING as far as trying to get a courtdate,or anything.We could not imagine a day without this baby...it is so painful and the constant worry...everytime i look into his little face...i could cry.The birthmom wants the baby to remain with us.This is all so heartbreaking...all we can do is take one day at a time...and pray and pray and pray.Everytime I read post on here I cry its so very,very sad.And the saddest part of all time keeps passing..and all we can do is wait.If only this guy would understand what he is putting us through...and especailly what he is putting this innocent baby through...its just not fair.Please keep praying for us we need the power of prayer..We know what the power of prayer can do!!!

[Leigh131313]

it's truly heartbreaking.

I have no advice, only cyber-hugs.

Take care of you and that precious baby.

Leigh

[MMC66]

This just stinks. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I will definitely pray for you guys and for this birthfather to find peace with his decision.

Hang in there,
Martha

[cathy102]

Sorry to hear about your news.. I will be praying for everyone involved..

[Jmuckey]

I can't even imagine what you are going through. We were matched in July 05 and the birthfather was not involved AT ALL until a week before the baby was born. He waited until the last day possible to file and contested the adoption before the baby was born. Despite meeting the birthmom and naming him, etc. we never saw him. She was forced to parent, as he took her to court to fight for 100% custody. And that was all we knew. We had no legal rights to get anymore involved. What made the disrupted adoption "final" was that in our state there is a certain amount of days the birthfather has to actually go to court and file (30 days). Since you had said that he has not followed through with any of that, do you know if there is a time frame that he has? Wish you well and I will pray for you.

[wishing4more]

Oh, so sadly, I can say that I completely understand what you are going through. Hang in there! Love this baby and trust that you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

I have been going through much the same situation for the past 15 months. I have never been in a situation where I have felt less control. But somehow, the time has passed, I still have my sweet baby, and I have learned so much!

Best wishes and good luck.

[stacykelly]

So far we have not heard anymore...its still the same awaiting the dreaded court date.Everyday we wake up and thank God we are blessed with this angel...seeing his smiling face every morning..helps us to get through this.There is just no greater feeling in this world!! We were just so lucky to witness his 1st tooth, now on to his 2cnd!!And the absolute best thing....his first word..dada!! This is all so priceless.We never take a day for granted and we hold him so close and love him as much as we can!!! We call him our little angel.And he just laughs and laughs when we say that to him.We would not trade this feeling for anything in the world...we love being his mommy and daddy and God knows how much this all means to us...
Thanks to all your responses...I hope to have good news because we continue to keep the faith that God placed our angel with us..and this is meant to be!!

[billysmommy]

Unfortunately, I know exactly what you are going through because I am living it. My daughter is now 15 months old and has been in our home (and hearts) since birth. The pain is unbearable at times, and worse is the lack of control, as wishing4more said. My prayers are with you in this hard time.
I have sent you a pm as well.

[SadieAnn]

I'm so sorry to you and to anyone who is going through this. We parented a baby for 5 wks and then lost him when bdad changed his mind. He was our "first" and like you we prayed for years to be parents. BUT our state laws were clearly on the side of the bparent. We got good legal advice and knew it was fruitless to fight. We did go on to adopt our son who is now 6 mos old. I remember what it was like to look at our first baby and fear the worst. Now I look at our son at 6 mos and don't know how I could ever bear being without him. I pray the laws are on your side and this will soon be behind you. If only the laws would look FIRST at what is best for the child. Sending you lots of (((((hugs))))).

[cathy102]

Hugs to you and your family... Just wanted to let you know I read your post... Please let us know how things go...

[AMom2Two]

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. My heart goes out to you. Please feel free to share your struggles with us. No one can help you feel any better about what you're going thru, but it does help to be able to talk about it.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and this little boy. I hope his bfather does the right thing by him. 5 months is a little too late to decide, I now want him, JMHO. I know in our state, after 4 months of age, they would have a hard time proving he is a capable father after abandoning the mother during her preganncy and not being involved in the child's first 5 months of life. His concern really shows, doesn't it? I think you have a good chance to fight it and possible win, if it comes to that.

Please keep us posted!

[billysmommy]

His concern really shows, doesn't it?

Amen, momtotwo! This is exactly what is so frustrating for those of us who are fighting these battles for our beloved children - myself included.