[mmdd2b]

Hello,
Just heard word yesterday that our Bmother wants to parent her child in the worst of worst odds. I just pray that she is making the right decision and won't regret it later. The baby is not born yet but will be soon.

I have been very strong so far since I heard the news. I grieved awhile like I was pregnant and am still greiving but I know someone out there needs me and my husband to be a mom/dad. Just wanted to vent.

Please pray for us to continue our journey to a third placement.

KB

[bumpkin]

So sorry,,,,, hope that your baby comes home to you soon.

Bumpkin

[ketingle]

sooo hard. What a roller coaster, huh? You just hang in there!

[baby2luv]

Praying for you and your family. Have been there. I will pray that your baby is sent to you soon!!

[mmdd2b]

Thanks for all of your responses. It is actually pretty hard. I have actually never had this kind of feeling before since of course I can't even get pg. But wow, it must feel pretty close to that.

It has been along 6months with this bmom and just so close. I am just blessed that she knows her decision before it got worse. Anyways, we are still strong and are going forward, on baby step at a time.

I would have posted this on the general site but thought I didn't want to get people down. If anyone wants to know my situation and what I learned can always pm me.

Again, I hear your prayers as we speak. I appreciate all of your kind words.

KB

[Peachy0301]

Hi there,

Just wanted to tell you that I understand totally how you are feeling! Our adoption feel through last week. It was an on again off again situation. A friend of a friend's 15 year old daughter was pregnant. At first she was going to keep the baby girl, then decided she wanted a two parent family for her and wanted to go to college, etc., and decided to put the baby up for adoption. Our friend told her about us and she was very excited. It seemed almost like a slam dunk until she went to an adoption agency and went thru their counselling. She decided she didn't want anyone that had any kind of a connection to her and was going to let the agency pick a family. Then someone talked with her for awhile and she decided that it would be better to have someone that someone she knew recommended and she decided once and for all for us. We were so excited! Her agency and our agency were working together and things were going well. She still wanted a closed adoption so we wouldn't get the baby until discharge from the hospital. The baby was born a week early on Sat. the 18th. We were supposed to pick her up Monday morning and were basically on the way when they called to say she had changed her mind and was going to keep her.

It is so hard because everything she said she wanted for her baby she chose to not give her. But on her side I can't question the decision because I know I could not give up my baby if I were in her place.

Like you, I do hope that she made the right decision, too. We are trying to focus on things we still need to do to get ready - we've only just started with the nursery - and also keep reinforcing that if this had been the right child for us it would have gone thru. The right child is out there, it's just a matter of timing to find them...

Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk. Thanks!! And hang in there...

Marta

[kllee4]

KB and Marta,

I am so sorry that you had to go through this and I will be praying for you, your families and the moms.
kllee