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05-14-2004, 12:56 PM
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21 Weeks and Over
Salty is no more. For all of you who were following my little saga, "M" terminated her pregnancy at 21 weeks. From what I am able to piece together, one of her friends from her Wiccan group came down here on a bus. She told us she was going to her aunts for a few days. She actually returned to Cincinatti with her. She is back living in the crack house we "rescued" her from. All I got was an e-mail.
I am horrified that abortions can even be done at this stage. After the Ultrasound and hearing his heartbeat and helping us think of names. I feel like I'm suffocating. I can't breath. I guess I knew all along this might happen. Even after we found out it was a boy she called him "it" She was obsessed with not gaining wait and "getting fat". She rarely took her vitamins. Please don't turn my grief thread into a 'woman's right to choose" debate. We told her months ago, if thats what she wanted to do, just do it. We just didn't want a part of it. It is not our belief. But we don't attempt to force it on others and ask that they don't either. I struggle with what to tell our children. DH is in shock..a mere shell. He keeps asking me why? She saw his heart beating, saw his little arms, little legs. I know she had started to feel him kick lately and it bothered her. I guess that was the final straw. We are going into seclusion at my parents for a while. Pray for us. Laura Houston Texas 
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#2
05-14-2004, 01:01 PM
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Laura,
I don’t have words...I'm sorry...I know this is a huge loss for you... you invested your emotions into this relationship. I will keep your family in my thoughts.
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Brandy Adopted Adult, Mom & Wife Mothering From The Sidelines of Open Adoption
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05-14-2004, 01:04 PM
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That's horrible
I'm so sorry for your loss, reading all that gave me chills and makes me want to cry. Is it legal to do that at 21 weeks? I will pray for you and the baby.
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05-14-2004, 02:07 PM
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I am so sorry.
I ache for you - I remember how precious it was to see my sons on the ultra sound. How very real it made them to me. May you find a bit of comfort knowing that tiny baby boy is being cradled in the arms of Jesus - forever at peace and forever without pain. You and your family are in my prayers.
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05-25-2004, 07:46 AM
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Laura,
I'm so very sorry to hear about what happened. I know this is a very difficult time for you. But do realize that through time the pain you feel will heal, even though it doesn't feel like it right now. Regardless of how much we try to guard ourselves from being hurt if placement does not happen, we can never guard our emotions enough for when it actually does not occur. This is simply because we fall in love with these little ones well before they are ever born. Especially in your situation...you had invested your life and heart into both mother and baby. You are to be commended for taking a chance on both. I'm doublely sorry that Salty didn't make it to his birthday. My heart goes out to you, and I really wish I could be there to give you a hug! May God bless you today during your sorrow and tomorrow during your healing! Linda
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05-25-2004, 09:27 AM
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Laura my heart is breaking for you right now. Jensboys said it best - he's now cradled in the arms of the angels and will forever be in your heart.
You all are in my prayers for peace and healing. Regina
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05-27-2004, 07:50 PM
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I agree completely that this wee one is now with the Lord. How horrible for you....tragic for all. This is a terrible thing, IMO.......and how doubly horrible that your family has had to know--up front and personal-------the specifics of it all!
May God grant you peace........ Linny
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05-27-2004, 08:02 PM
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Laura......((((((((Warm Hugs)))))) What a terrible tragedy for you and your family. Please know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers.....My heart goes out to each of you. God Bless you all....Find your strength and comfort in Him.
Staci
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   I could have missed the pain, But I would have had to miss the Dance. (From Garth Brooks...The Dance) First Contact with Birthdaughter by letter 2/14/03 First Contact with Birthdaughter by phone 4/24/06 The truth is...I gave my heart away a long time ago, all of it, and I never really got it back -Sweet Home Alabama
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06-09-2004, 01:34 PM
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Laura,
I'm so sorry for you. I know I am late in offering my support, but I haven't been contributing much to the forums lately. I have followed your story from the beginning, through the twists and turns, knowing all the effort you and your husband made to reach out to this young girl, bring her into your home, and care for her. You took on great risks to help her and in the process to try to make your dreams come true. And because you were close to her so early, you did grow to know and love the unborn boy growing inside of her. I can't imagine your pain and pray for your hearts to heal.
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06-09-2004, 04:39 PM
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Oh Laura, I am so sorry to hear your news, it's very heartbreaking and we all share your pain. I truly hope you and your family find peace during your healing and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm sorry, I am just so stunned and at a loss for words, I wish I could be of more comfort to you. Thank you for being brave by sharing this with us so we all can comfort eachother. Sending you lots of hugs & prayers, Deb
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In IOA waiting family book 2/20/04 First meeting with a pbmom ( fell through ) 4/12/04 Matched 08/05 It's a girl, due 10/2/05
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06-09-2004, 06:46 PM
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You know I will probably get blasted by some "right to lifers," but so what. All I can say is...Da*n her for being so selfish! I am so sorry for the pain you and your family are enduring.
Sam
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LambeauSam Proud mother of three boys.
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06-09-2004, 10:00 PM
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"Sam".....
Just so you know.........you took the words right out of my head! I agree, and when I wrote my first post, I was thinking the same thing.... Sincerely, "Linny"
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