[ocracoke]

As I consider the option of adopting again .... some days I feel completely insane when I say that.

After a lot of thought and consideration to my life and most especially to the behaviors, needs, and personality of my daughter I have made the decision that if I am going to adopt again it will be best if I adopt out of birth order. My current daughter would do best to remain the youngest and I would like to add a daughter that is just about 1-2 years older then her. I try to stay up on agency information so I know a lot of the agencies that work in Ethiopia. What I am having a hard time with finding out is which agencies will allow out of birth order adoptions. Some that I have talked to are completely dead set against it, others really discourage it but have not said it is a deal breaker. My question is -- does anybody know of an angency out there that currently allows out of birth order adoptions? If so could you please PM me. I never would have thought it would be such a big issue but it really seems to be.

Thanks,
Samantha

[Quesita]

Wow. I am just playing with the idea of a second adoption... and I am considering an older child.

I've given a lot of thought to the idea of an "out of birth order" adoption. My beautiful daughter was the youngest of many in foster care in Guatemala. And now she is the baby at daycare. And the youngest of the cousins. She LOVES older kids, and I think that she is very comfortable in her role as the littlest one.

It had not occured to me that agency policies might be an obstacle.