[lakin11]

Well, we have our 2 yr old's baby sister! She's just shy of 2 months old. We know that bio mom was drinking at least the last 2 months of her pregnancy, but starting to assume more. Baby has very very thin lips, eyes are set apart more than 'normal'. So sad that she's done this to yet another precious baby. We are still waiting on an official diagnosis for the 2 yr old, but the signs are there.

Just sooooo mad that bio mom cannot think of anyone but herself and only sees these girls as her possessions, not as her children. She only wants them so we can't have them.

[Howdy]

I'm not sure whether to congratulate you or offer sympathy. Is there no way to prevent the mother from drinking while she is pregnant? How old is she, do you think this is going to happen again and again? This is such a tragedy for the children. My first foster daughter had a little brother with FAS and the county had a hard time finding him a family.

[lakin11]

She is 20 or 21, not sure. I'm sure this will continue to happen as she doesn't SEE that there is a problem! She doesn't deal with the effects everyday. She's in total denial that she's done ANYTHING wrong in neglecting the older one, or continuing her path of destruction with the baby.
We'll make it through......we love these girls and will be there through the end, if God allows us to adopt them.

[Jackiejdajda]

I wish there was a way to stop a woman from drinking when pregnant.. a law or something..

I am glad you are in this world and caring for children..
God bless..

Jackie

[chickymum]

In my experience these moms have no idea of what they are doing wrong. My fas daughter was beaten almost to death when she was 12 months old by her bio moms boyfriend. Obviously she was removed. Bio mom figured that since she wasn't there when it happened then why did she have to lose her kids. Where was mom??? She was at a party until 6am. She sent boyfriend home from the party in a cab to where her kids were sleeping because he was being violent and trying to beat everyone up at the party. if the people at the party could not protect themselves against this man then how did she figure her baby could? She has her family convinced that she did not drink while pregnant. Yet all 4 of her kids have the symptoms. As well as people saw her do it. if someone did something to a baby or child to give them brain damage then they would get charged but this kind of cause of brain damage is ok????ggggrrrrrr

[Suziebearhugs]

So sad

But the good news is this baby will have a family who loves and cherishes her and puts her first from now on!

[lakin11]

Originally Posted by Suziebearhugs

So sad

But the good news is this baby will have a family who loves and cherishes her and puts her first from now on!

Oh I so wish this were the case. We found out that the aunt bio mom named to take the baby now wants both girls! My 2.5 yro ld doesn't know anyone else her mom but me! She is so super attached to me it would kill her to be placed somewhere else!! The aunt so far has only been talk, which is why the baby was moved here after spending a month in another foster home. However, I can't rest easy now. I'm for 100% sure that if the aunt gets the girls, they are going straight back to bio mom, who will change her idenity. She's here in the states illegally as it is, so this is not something new for her. I just worry about my girls.

[mommytoEli]

have you straight up asked the social worker if the aunt is a consideration? we are waiting for our son's birthsibling right now and the mom did name a bunch of relatives....but none were deemed suitable. a similar thing happend with our older 2. the aunt was mentioned more than once. the sw said NO WAY they would ever approve her.

good luck!

[o2b30again]

I was told the same thing by the social worker...there is no way that they will approve the great aunt. (they don't have a bond and there are other issues as well)...well judge ruled that she gets a homestudy and that we are compared "apples to apples" Needless to say we are still waiting for the children to be placed with us. It has been 4months and we had to hire an attorney. Oh and the parents picked us to adopt the children AND BOTH signed our names in the Consent to Adopt form! Great Aunts attorney is saying that because they signed the TPR that the Consent to Adopt for is null because "technically" the state has custody. There are so many legalities and loop holes. I'll pray for your family and understand where you are coming from. I just think that in the end all the games hurt the children. Keep your spirits high