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can you please tell me how to look for someone to adopt my baby, tell me what i have to do, and how long it takes.

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Originally Posted By Kathleen Silber

Dear Staceynbaby2000,

There are many prospective adoptive parents (both couples and singles) seeking to adopt. There are also many types of adoption--agency adoption vs. independent adoption, open adoption vs. closed adoption, etc. It can be very overwhelming and confusing! I suggest that you call a licensed agency, such as the one I am affiliated with, that offers open adoption (call 1-800-877-OPEN or email adoptionhelp.org). We also work with birthparents from across the U.S. Open adoption offers opportunities for you to select and meet the adopting parents, as well as to have whatever level of ongoing contact over the years that you are comfortable with. In addition, with licensed agencies, prospective adoptive parents have been screened, as well as educated about open adoption. If adoptive parents have not gone through an extensive educational process (which is typically the case if you connect on your own or through an attorney or facilitator), they might agree to anything you request in order to get the baby, and then renege on their promises afterward. Your best protection is to use an agency which has educated the adopting parents and which has worked with them to determine what levels of openness they are truly comfortable with. Plus, if there are any problems down the line, the agency can mediate these for you.

Best of luck in finding the right family for your baby!

Regards,

Kathleen Silber

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Originally Posted By ang

Staceynbaby2000,

My name is Angela Smith and I read your post on Independent Adoption board. My husband and I are prospective adoptive parents. We live in South Carolina but are working with an Attorney in CA. We were matched with a birth mom last year, December 15th. The baby was due May 16, 2001, she was born on that very day and she was beautiful. Two days later we went to the hospital to take her home to learn that the birth mom had changed her mind. We had built a loving relationship with the birth mom, we talked to her daily about her life, problems, anything, when we would hang up we each would express our love for each other. She told us that no matter what she wouldn't change her mind. She lives in LA and we live in SC, she was going to come and visit us and the baby this summer, needless to say we were heart broken, not only to lose the baby but to lose her also, I felt that she was a part of our family. I guess what I'm trying to say is really think about what you want. It's a different story when you hold your baby in your arms. The young lady we were working with finally wrote to us the other day, it's been hard but We've prayed about it and I know in my heart she did what was best for her and her baby, but it still hurts. So, pray and make sue you talk to a counselor. Good luck and God Bless.....

Angie

[Tori Koubek]

Where are u located geographically look up adoption attorneys on the internet for your region. I am a prospective adoptive mom and that's where I'd start or you could network through family and friends we are trying to find a child that way because we don't really want to go through an expensive agency. Good Luck!!!!!

[craftiemom]

Hey, look at the date of the original poster. This baby could be a toddler by now! LOL!

[Tori Koubek]

Can you tell I'm not getting any sleep we just got a new foster boy and he's having a hard time adjusting so it's from his bed to our bed about twenty times a night!!!!!!! Sorry