[melissachaudhry]

My daughter is 4 years old and desperately needs a loving family environment with no other children around. I have two other children and she is a very jealous and manipulitive child and I feel that she would do much better with no other children around. I am just hoping that I am doing the right thing, because I love her with all my heart but can't bring myself to like her after she tried to choke my baby. Does that make sense? I want to put her up for adoption put am very doubtful that anyone would want to take on such a great responsibility. I am new to this so any feed back would be very welcome!

[Linny]

Melissa,

You may also want to post and get some advice on this through this website:


Attachment Disorder Support Group...message board:

http://www.syix.com/adsg/forums/adsg/disc1_frm.htm



Many people on this site have children with the same types of behaviors your four year old is experiencing. They also have had similar experiences as you have. (We have an adopted son who has similar behaviors to the point that he no longer lives with us.)

Good luck.


Linny

[bromanchik]

Melissa,
It sounds to me like you could benefit from Family Therapy. Do not give up until you can get some help for you and your family. If you need help locating resources in your area, e-mail me privately.

brenr@openadoptioninsight.org

[rindava]

We have a local children's group home that takes kids in your situation. You might want to call them and see if they can help. The are Hope Haven Children's Group Home (757) 427-1500, it is in Va Beach, Virginia. Don't give up on yourself, you can do it with help. At Hope Haven you can have as much contact with your child, and get them back during summer breaks from school if you want. Get help!

[niece]

I have no idea of the pain and love that this decision is going to cause you. I wish that I could have just have half of your curage.
If there is anything that I can do to help you just let me know.
NIECE

[vicrose]

I have to be honest, I read your post a while ago, and was kind of taken back by it, and it took me a while to write something to you, because I am not a judgemental person. Have you thought about all your options? Have you thought about the abondonment feelings that most adoptees have, especialy ones that have been adopted later in life after loving someone such as you for such a long time? You are your child's world, you are her everything!!!! Your post brought me to tears!!!! It must be difficult to live with a child that has problems. But with loving care and outside help I'm sure you could come to a resolution. I am willing to help you, because I really would not want to see a child, yes I say a child rejected because she has some emotional problems. I hope I was not judgemental at all, if at all it seemed like that it was not meant to be, I just really have a love for children, and believe that there is good in any child.

[TNCOUPLE]

I HAVE A QUESTION HOW OLD IS YOUR CHILDREN?

[ellia3]

Hi I read your post and was really touched. However, this is your child and you don' t want to make any drastic decisions. Seek counseling, if you are a member of a local church family seek spiritual counseling in a situation like this you do not want the opinions of others, you need God's instructions. Seek God and let his word and holy spirit lead you and give you direction with this situation.

[vicrose]

We have reached out to you, because your story touched our hearts, but you have not even responded to one of us. I hope this means you have changed your mind about adopting your child ou, and rather have sought out professional help for this child. Let us know if your o.k. We really do care. Sincerely, Brenda

[kgirlly]

Hi Melissa my name is Claudine i just post my story online, I'm sure you are through a great deal of pain, but if you get a chance please read and understand were I'm coming from.


Keep your faith up god will guide you through the good and bad time.

[trunks888]

I'm sure there's people out there more that would be more than happy to adopt her.

However, I hope you dont rush into this,
Thas a big choice and some times children react and do alot of things trying to get there parents attinchin.

And maby with the baby she was just reaching out
for some.

It dont mean she's some crazy killer or somthing
just means she needs some help.

I'm not here to judge you and I'm betting there's more to this than we all know,
but thats the way I feel on it.

If you need to talk with some one privetly then feel free to e mail me.

I will listin to you and help in everyway I can for I know
this cant be easy on you..
Take care and May God bless.

[niece]

It has been a long time since we have heard from you and I hope that you have made the right choice for you and your child.
I have had you in my prayers