[kelceesmom]

Let's say your child is in his/her teenage years (15-17ish) and wanted you and their bmom/bparents to go on a vacation together would you be willing?

The hard part is you have only seen the bmom/bparents 2 times since your child was born. You have had minimal contact thru phone and email also. You really don't know these people. Would you be willing, for your child's sake to put your heart out their and spend a week with them?

[PKrellwitz]

I'd be willing to discus it.

A lot would depend on logistics of the vacation.

Don't think I'd be comfortable with a week long stay at the birthmom or birthmom's family's home, or all of us isolated on some island camp site in tents for a week.

But I'd consider a trip on neutral ground at some mainstream vacation destination with separate accommodations though, for the sake of the child.

It would just have to be a situation where we could have some boundaries, but it could be a great starting point to foster new relationships.

[Isabo]

Originally Posted by kelceesmom

Let's say your child is in his/her teenage years (15-17ish) and wanted you and their bmom/bparents to go on a vacation together would you be willing?

The hard part is you have only seen the bmom/bparents 2 times since your child was born. You have had minimal contact thru phone and email also. You really don't know these people. Would you be willing, for your child's sake to put your heart out their and spend a week with them?

Yes, definitely, I would do it for my child. In fact, I basically have. When my son found me, he almost immediately started campaigning for me to meet his adoptive parents. I had never met them, knew nothing about them other than the information told to me by the adoption agency, and had never been allowed to interact with them in any way. We live a day's drive apart. On their invitation, I flew up alone and stayed at their house, did everything I could to get to know them, answered any and all questions they had, and ended up being Exhibit A at a party they had for all their friends and family so they could inspect me (yes, it was that uncomfortable). I basically did whatever my son wanted within reason FOR HIM to meet his needs.

These people may be strangers to you, but they are your child's family. They entrusted you with that child, even though you were strangers to them and to him/her. They trusted you on a level that is much bigger than what your child is asking of you now, IMO. I think you should go, as it would mean so much to your child and to them.