[Kansasgirl]

Well, we went to our daughters birthmothers wedding Sat. night...

We received a lot of akward stares. At one time bmom's stepmom introduced our daughter to one of her family members as bmom's daughter, one of the guests came up to me (in front of our daughter) and said "is this the adopted..." I broke in and said "this is our daughter ______." We sat at a table by ourselves during the entire reception, noone sat with us at all or barely made an attempt to speak to us. I just felt like such an outsider... I have to say I think that was the last get together that we will attend for our daughters bmom. It was pretty uncomfortable.

[mrsvaldez]

I am sorry it was so uncomfortable for you! I can't even imagine...one of the reasons I am so nervous about an open adoption. You are so brave and strong to bring your DD!

Sharon

[kelceesmom]

Sorry to hear that you were uncomfortable. I give you credit for being there trying to support your dd bmom. People just don't understand the message they send when they act that way.

[papaeck]

sometimes its best to leave well enought alone. reunions are too emotional for all parties

[SchmennaLeigh]

I'm sure that was really hard. To be fair, just because they're "touched" by adoption doesn't mean that they fully understand appropriate adoption language. I usually try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I think you handled it well by interrupting with "this is our daughter." Kudos for that one.

I also want to give you kudos for enduring the uncomfortable moments so that your daughter could attend her birth mother's wedding. Many years from now, you will forget just how uncomfortable the moment was but she will have pictures to show that her everyday parents are awesome in that they took her to a big event in her biological mother's life. Kudos, kudos, kudos.