[sugarmuffin]

regarding my homestudy. Here is the deal.... I found out yesterday that my FBI fingerprints had not been mailed out for an entire month. They were sitting in the office because the the director needed to sign something before they went out. I just couldn't help but start crying but the lady on the phone was super sweet and promised to get it done monday. I am usually not the emotional type but something about my fingerprints just "sitting" on someone's desk broke my heart.

Anyone know what am talking about? I really want my baby and I to find each other and "paperwork" shouldn't get in the way........

[kakuehl]

Hang in there! I haven't experienced your situation, but I do know how it feels to reach the point you have. Trust that you will find your child at the "right" time which has nothing to do with hours or days. I hope that for you the right time comes very soon.

[Linny]

I (We) HAVE had very similar situations, and I know exactly how you feel sugarmuffin! It's irritating and frustrating to say the least.
I remember the first time was when we lived overseas and had to have a 'raised seal' birth certificate in order to expedite our new baby coming from Korea to Japan. I had one; but dh's was a basic seal (not raised) and definately the actual copy, but the Japanese consulate wouldn't accept his copy.
Soooo, our baby would have to wait until we could get a 'raised seal' copy from his parents in the states. (This was back in the early 80's.)
I remember it was SO bad for me, I literally started crying right there in front of the lady's desk.......and I just couldn't believe something so stupid could hold up our baby coming home! (Our homestudy was already done, approved and our baby----whom we'd already seen, was waiting in Korea in foster care!!!)

And, there have been other times too...but you'd think people working in these areas, would realize how important simple stuff like this IS to folks like us, KWIM? I know I'd feel that way!!!!!!

Best advice I know to tell you is to realize everything has it's RIGHT time and place (as the above poster said). Additionally, best to take a DEEP breath, say a prayer, give a nod and think, 'This too shall pass...and we'll STILL have our baby when its time!!!!"

Best of luck to you. It WILL work out in the end and our family stands in living proof of that!!!!!

Sincerely,

Linny

[Gwen72]

I have been in a similar situation with our agency. The homestudy that they said they would have done in 6 weeks took them 13weeks to finish. They would say they needed something filled out then they would say, "That was the wrong letterhead, you need to fill This one out instead." My DH takes a very common blood pressure medicine and they made him get a second physical because of that. At the homestudy class they said since we are open to any race or gender our wait would be 1 to 12 weeks. When they FINALLY got us on the list they said they have no birthmothers they are working with right now. We've been waiting 9 weeks and have yet to be shown to a mother. This agency has been around for 20 years so you would think they would have all thier ducks in a row by now. With everything we've been through TTC to be jerked around by an agency that you are paying THOUSANDS of dollars to is terrible. Just try to remember that you are not alone. This is a great place for support. Good luck with your adoption journey and I hope it goes smoothly from here.

[sugarmuffin]

:For all your support!! Its been a rough weekend(it may be because its mothers day) I need to be strong and remain positive...

[Scrapsathome]

The exact same thing happened to us last year. We did back flips through hoops working our tails off to get our entire stack of paperwork, fingerprints and all, done as soon as humanly possible. It tooks us less than 48 hours and included driving to another county just to get it done faster. Then we handed it to the main adoption placement person who had taught all our classes. She left it sitting on her desk for a MONTH before we found out in our final class that we didn't have an ID number for our case...because we weren't in their computer system. She finally put it on the paperwork person's desk...while that person was on vacation. So 5 weeks after we submitted it our paperwork was finally documented and our fingerprints sent out. Everyone else in our classes became foster and even adoptive parents months before us. The delay caused our fingerprints to get caught in an FBI backlog that took 3 months to process.

Then when we were finally approved we saw the perfect sibling group on our county website and called that same main adoption placement person to give our homestudy to the caseworker for that group. She said sure thing. We called back a week later and she said she'd given it to the CW but that they wouldn't make the final decision for another week. We apparently didn't get selected, or so we thought. A couple of weeks later we ran into the actual CW for those kids and asked about them. She had no idea who we were and had never been given our homestudy.

Now this week, about 9 months later, we just found out that the same situation may have happened again. I'm not sure what to do. I do know I'm going to demand a copy of my homestudy.

Jess