[Skyflower]

Hello,
My dh and I have been looking into international adoption but I thought I should check domestic as well. We'd like to adopt a toddler between 1-3 years old. We can't do foster-adopt because the idea of having a child for a short time and then having them taken away is too much for us (and our 8 year old dd would NEVER be able to take it). So, if anyone could tell me if it's possible to adopt a toddler (and how the process works) I'd greatly appreciate it. We live in PA if that makes any difference. Thanks.
Kim

[Linny]

I completely understand your hesitation to fostering to adopt. BTDT. However, in most states, you can clarify that you'll only take children IF they are completely free and adoptable. (This is what we went to, because the process of having them leave after almost one year, was too much to bear.)

But, if you decide to go the private route, I can assure you that some agencies DO place toddlers. Perhaps not very often, but it happens. If you decide this, Google 'adoption agencies in (whatever your state is)' and a long list of agencies will be available.

Print this list off, and sit down with a phone to start calling them! When you talk with them, ask them how often they place toddlers. You might be surprised with some, and it certainly can't hurt to ask!

Good luck to you....

Sincerely,

Linny

[Emster]

While we were waiting for our newborn, our agency called us on two separate situations, one was for a sibling group of three, which included a toddler, and another was for a toddler with some special needs. Just let your agency know what you are open to and situations do present themselves. Both of these situations came WAYYYY earlier than any newborn situation.

[Skyflower]

Thanks for the responses. I'm not sure yet which way we're going to go. It's so intimidating getting started! Thanks again!
Kim

[Joy-Lynn]

I'm new to this site and am adopting through the Alberta (Canada) Social System. I can't answer your question, but I can say that our experience has been very positive and to encourage you to enjoy the process. The adoption workers are glad to have you. Your interest in a child in their system is what they need to place these precious lives in homes that will love and care for them.
Don't be daunted, celebrate the process!