[gottahavehope]

I agree that it really does depend. We did a private domestic adoption. We hired our lawyer at the very end of August. We were given the greenlight to advertise at the end of September. We got "the call" from our son's birthmother in November. She had seen our profile on Parentprofiles. We had only been on that site for two weeks. However, she was early in her pregnancy. Our son was not born till June. So, overall it took us 10 months from start of the process to holding our son in our arms.

Good Luck to you!

[scdogs]

Thanks for the post... We finally got matched, and then the match recently failed... and I am so upset... I hope another match will move along quickly.. Our first match was fairly quickly... Good luck to you.

[patti Daniels]

We adopted through a domestic adoption 18 years ago. It took nine months.

[usmcfamily2005]

As most everyone has stated there is no average wait time.

From the time we started our homestudy til our beautiful daughter was born it was just over 3 months.

Again, as many people stated your wait time has a lot of variables, they agency you are with, your state, the birth parents, but most importantly your wait time really varies based on YOU. (In My Opinion).

If you are a very open minded couple about race, sex, even possible medical history and drug usage of the birth parents, your wait time will be shortened considerably.

Just do lots of research and search your souls. You will find what is right for you.

[lmitch]

We found our birthmom about three weeks after deciding on adoption. She was due in two months so we had to hurry up and get a homestudy before he was born. God has a higher plan for everyone and your child will come when the time has come. We are currently "waiting" for our next and its been about 7 months now.

[Gardenia]

We were one of those with a really long wait. From the time our homestudy was approved until we were matched, it took 2.5 years. Our agency told us the average wait was 18 months. We were told our agency had several waiting couples at the same time as us and not too many p-birthparents coming in.

[julsbensmommy]

Hi, everybody that stated there is no time frame is right. We waited close to 20 months with an agency and had one failed situation.

We hired an adoption attorney and were matched within one month. Our son was born one month later.

On the whole, I believe the "national average" is said to be 18-24 months being the average wait for adoptive parents. However, as you see from all the posts - every situation is different!

God bless you!

[lisaluvsafireman]

I also think it depends on your openess to certain issues. Our agency (of course not guaranteed) but said judging from our openess we should have the baby by December 07 soooo ~Good Luck~

[sarahbunny]

Homestudy complete and "in the book" with our profile at the very beginning of November 2005. Matched April 1, 2006 for baby due June 24. Match failed June 23. Re-matched September 19, baby born on September 27! And here we are, with the perfect baby for our family.

I mentioned the failed match so that it was clear...we were out of the book for 3 and a half months, so I don't count that in our waiting period.

We used a very reputable agency in MN who had approximately 70 families waiting. We were open to any race (one of about 5 - 8 families in that book who could say that) and were open to certain special needs, but no drug or alcohol usage while pregnant.

M is half Jordanian and half Latina. Perfectly healthy with a awesome birthmother, who we adore.

It does happen. It depends on what you are open to, and just fate...I believe the average wait for a caucasian baby was said to be 18 months, but there were families that waited literally 1 day, and some waited 5 years. Our agency also said it depended somewhat on the profile the parents put together.

[dutchgirl2]

Once we finished our homestudy and were in the book, we waited 4 months for our first daughter. Home study update, back in the book and 2 months before bringing home our son. That turned into a failed placement and we had to give him back. Then 5 months later we brought home our youngest daughter.
So really not a long wait at all.

[NaturalizedCT]

Originally Posted by usmcfamily2005

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If you are a very open minded couple about race, sex, even possible medical history and drug usage of the birth parents, your wait time will be shortened considerably.

So if you wanted a healthy white baby, what sort of wait time could you expect assuming you were open to an open adoption and gender? What if you wanted a closed adoption?

I assume being gender specific for new born adoption is almost impossible particulalry if the preferred gender is female?

[BarbaraB]

NaturalizedCT, even then, the answer is still "it depends." As a general proposition, you will wait longer. But you just never know when something about you will be exactly what a particular birth parent wants for her child. Even birth parents who want a closed adoption are often involved in the selection process.

Our agency told us to be prepared to wait two to three years for a newborn. We brought our son home a year after we started the process, and about seven and a half months after our home study was completed.

[jaenelle]

There is not a timeline that will work for everyone. I know people who were very "picky" about what they wanted who waited a very short time... and others who were very "open" about what they wanted that waited a lot longer. There just is no "typical" situation in adoption, because every birthparent and every adoptive parent want something different. I know it's very hard to wait for something you want this badly and a timeline can give you a sense of control over the situation, but really... you just have to let things happen as they will.

[sarah-ryan]

I think it all depends on the agency you use. Our agency says around 9 months or sooner for a match.will just have to wait and see.

[jaenelle]

Originally Posted by sarah-ryan

I think it all depends on the agency you use. Our agency says around 9 months or sooner for a match.will just have to wait and see.

To some extent, yes. But SO many other things come into play, too.