[trunks888]

Hi,
I hope to one day adopt a child.
I'm currently only 19 years old,
and in this state you must be 21 to adopt.

I plan to start the home study and all that once i'm age 21.
I may be young in age but due to medical stuff I had to grow up more than most people my age.

Alot of people judge me saying that I shouldnt want to adopt being so young and single.

But you know
I want to be a dad more than anything,
and i'm not like most people my age.
I'm not into the partying and all that stuff
and come the end of this summer I will have done all the things in my life i have wanted to.
anyways i'm taking the time untill then
to study the adoption stuff insided and out
For when the time comes i'll be totaly ready for it.

Anyways now that you know my info got a few questions.

For state adoptions what ages are considered a toddler adoption?

I'm hoping to adopt alittle girl between ages 1 and maby 4
Now you may think it's weird i want alittle girl,
But there are reasons.

First of all I always wanted to have daddys little girl,
Plus my mom wants a grand daughter bad.
and boys are more into ruff housing and sports and thats not my stuff.(Of course if thats what the girl got into i would support her)
and things like that.
So once again please dont judege me on that.
Anyways moving on to the next question.

I'm on disablity and was wondering if i adopt
will the amount I get each month rise?

From the studdying i have done on all this
that's a legal form of income for adoption.
and diabled people have right protected for adoption stuff to.

Also
How long once i complte the home studdy do you think it would take to find a white toddler girl?
some people say finding toddler girls is easy because most people want infants. some say it's very hard. I'm not sure what to think. also
I'm not racest but live in a area thats a very white area and thats what would be best so thats why i want a white one..

I would also like to hear some of your experances.

Thanks.
Bye

[sjjkcloutier@ao]

First of all, I think your way of thinking and your reasons are right on track. I also think it's great that you are preparing now for when you turn 21. I have to tell you that, while there are some white toddler girls around I have not seen many without health and/or behavior problems because of what they have been through, or are part of a sibling group. Also, the wait may be longer for you because not every child can do well with a single dad - some need 2 parents due to needs.
And yes, disability is generally accepted as a form of income. As far as age, the ages that are considered toddler are 1 to 3. Also, don't hold yourself to age 21, because if you want or need to do something else with your life at that point you'll be torn. Adoption isn't something that should tear you up. It should feel right.
My advice for you - get a good parenting class and be realistic, no matter how much it hurts. My husband and I had to reject a sibling group that was offered to us, and we cried over it for weeks but we already had a child placed with us on an emergency basis and couldn't take them because they couldn't be around other children. We have since adopted that child and his brother and are happier than we have ever been, and the boys are flourishing!

Good luck, and I hope you find what you're looking for.

[trunks888]

Thank you for the info.
I had totaly forgot about this post.
It was so long ago I posted it.

Anyways.
My views have changed abit since the time I posted them.

I'm still wanting to adopt and planning it and everything such as that.

But I have become more open to things.

For one special needs I'm more open to now than I was before.
I think i would be good to parent a special needs child
due to I have alot of medical experance.

And I'm also open to a boy
now I still think a girl would be better but I'm not going to be picky on this.

And I'm will to parent a child any where under 6
insted of 1-4 like I listed before.

I would Consider older then this but
Since I dont know if i will be adopting or anything more than this one time(As a single parent I know I wont)
I would like to have at least one chance to experance
the younger years.

I wish I could say I changed my mind on race of the child.
But thats one thing I have not done nor could due.
I dont care about the race personaly a child is a child
and should becared for and loved to matter what skin color they have.

But the down I live in is very bad about race and I'm looking out for best intrest of the child when I look at the race option.

Also I'm making sure I dont rush into any of this.
I have learned alot over the last few weeks as well as picked up parenting books.
I also Contacted Local collage about parenting classes.
Been helping with a Cusins kids to get more experance.

Also my state makes one take classes in order to adopt
so I will recive those to.
Also I will make sure everything is totaly right before I begain.

I dont want to start all of it and be over my head.
I want to be ready to work with the social worker
and once I have adopted be the best parent I can be.

Anyways
now that you know where I'm at now.
I thank you once again for the support and input.
take care and may God bless you.