[hprestonalexand]

Hello, my name is Heather. I have been on this site for a while now, mostly in the adoption areas since I am an adoptee. My situation and my strss though is not with my adoption search, it is with my step daughter. I will try to make this short. My husband and I received physical custody of his daughter in January of 2003 when her mother was arrested in a Methanfedamine lab in Montanna. Her and the person she was with had quite allot of bad stuff, she was given 5 felonys, 3 of them were child endangerment, though of course non of these effected her own child. We went to Montana from Washington where we live and took her home to be our child and be part of our family to have the life she deserves. Since bringing her home in Jan. we have been having her see a child therapist on a regular basis, she has many issues. From seeing her mother have sex on the couch to seeing her mother hit by boyfriends, to pot smoking and other drugs and to this little girl making lunch for her mother while she slept in until 1:00 in the afternoon drunk and or high! She acts out in fits of rage and choked her 2 year old little brother with a shoelace last week and she hits him alot. We found out two days ago that she has been molested while she was in Montana. And the social workers will make us give her back, knowing all of this too! We are lost for what to do??? I am lost for what to do, so now I am praying and venting. Thank you for taking the time to read this, Love a concerned and loving Mother of three!

[peaches76]

I dont know want to say, but that God loves all and keep praing he is the only one that can help in the end.

[lucyjoy]

Why will Montana make you take her back? Is mom not going to serve time? Did your husband have previous visitation rights?
I know laws vary state to state, any hope from your attorney?
This poor child is in need of a stable home and some attachment based therapy to heal the damage her mothers neglect and abuse must have done to her young brain. I wouldn't let her go wihout a court order and assurance from an attorney that I had no choice. I hope this works out better that you seem to feel it will.

[sk8rgrl2]

I would strongly recommend she not be out of sight with your toddler son, which is very hard to do. Aside from the physical abuse you mentioned there is a fair possibilty she could molest your son. It's not necessarily true that victims end up creating other victims, but given the apparent level of emotional disturbance in this young lady, I wouldn't take the chance.