[kakuehl]

My dear, you are in my prayers. Please remember that she is in a very hard place right now. Please give her time... as much as she needs. Right now she is in a very hard place. She is a very young adult and her grandparents are putting a lot of pressure on her. She knows you wanted to reconnect. Give her time and keep hoping. My bson was 33 when I found him. He has told me that our reunion would not have been as easy or successful if it had happened when he was 18 or even 25. Sometimes it's a matter of the "right" time.

[Jackiejdajda]

SunMoonCindy

What can I do? anything? WAIT & PRAY is all I know.

Maybe wait till she moves from them and into her own life.. and world..
Give her peace of mind.. and time to sort all this..

Lots of family issues involved.. she can not solve them..

Jackie

[SunMoonCindy]

Maybe wait till she moves from them and into her own life.. and world..
Give her peace of mind.. and time to sort all this..

Lots of family issues involved.. she can not solve them..

U r exactly right!!! Thank u both 4 takin' the time 2 reach out 2 me w/ ur wisdom. I'm just struggling 24/7...
even dreaming bout her more than ever! Been made 2 believe my leaving was cause I didn't want her>>>so not the case!! I guess what's making this sooo difficult was her initial responce 2 my contacting her>>>>OH MY>>Words can't express how surprised & alive my heart felt>>>there is this empty place she will 4-ever hold & not even my 7 yr. old son touches there.
Again, u r very wise 2 say she can't solve family issues & shouldn't have 2>>>she was & is an innocent in all of this!
Oh the dreaded waiting & wondering how I've made her feel>>>>
She posted something 4 me 2 c a month or so ago, "Break my heart once, shame on u! Break my heart twice, shame on me!"
I am just sooo sorry I wasn't strong enough 2 be the Mother she needed & deserved!! If only I could go back the Cindy I am 2day>>>>Fools wishes

[reunitedandscared]

Hello all. I am new to this forum and definitely looking for advice. My 18 yr old daughter found me in December. It was a wonderful reunion and it was unbelievable to me - still is, in fact. Since the 1st phone call, we have seen each other twice. We talk on the phone a lot but it has been hard to really communicate since she is 18 and always on the run and I am now married with a 3 yr old. However, in these few months I have been able to ascertain that she definitely has a lot of problems. She has been arrested a few times, hangs around with very unsavory people and quite likely is abusing drugs. She is not working now since she was fired for not showing up. I have spoken with her AM and she is worried sick but doesn't know what else to do. Her father is in Florida (they divorced yrs ago). Her mom feels she is definitely headed towards big trouble. She is constantly at war with her mom and now holding me up to her mother, telling her she can come live with me any time she wants. Recently she called me to ask me to come here. She had a big fight with her mom.
My concern is that she has been showing me in a lot of ways that she is manipulating things now that I am in the picture. I have enormous love for her and she is a beautiful child but she is pretty messed up. Finally, my more immediate concern, is that I am married now and have a 3 yr old son. I feel that I need to be concerned for him as well. I do not really know my daughter yet and what I know frightens me and I am not sure what is the right thing to do. I want to help her but I need to protect my family at the same time. If anyone has any advice, please share. Having my daughter find me is still the most amazing thing that could ever have happened to me.

[portlowski]

You have come to the right place for good advice and support. I would advise creating this as a new thread so people are sure to read it, since this is a realtively old thread.

I am an amom so I don't have experience in this area...you and your family are in my thoughts and I hope you get some helpful replies soon from those who have been there.