[Sadone]

After years of wondering and waiting my daughter and I found each other. She started her search here around April 04, I started about July 04. What a coincidence. We have spoken by phone and plan to meet the first week in September. I am elated, nervous, excited and other emotions I didn't even know I had. I am glad that I found this site and my daughter....

[chrismh]

Isn't it wonderful the two of you were looking for each other and found each? I'm so very happy when this happens. So you're a bundle of nerves huh? Well, hang on, the ride is just starting, as they say. Does your daughter have a computer? She should get on here with us. The reading, if thats all she does, would be very helpful in this reunion. Don't forget to take care of yourself while all the time you just think about her. Eat, sleep, read, post, and breathe. Thats a big one.
Good luck to both of you. Oh yeah, go slow. Chris

[Sadone]

Thank you for the support, I have often wondered what it would be like. I stress about what she may think of me as a birth parent. I work with adolescents in my job and sometimes see emotions up to and including anger in some of my clients that are adopted. We have continued to communicate and have had some very enlightening conversations. I am currently trying to assist in locating her birth mother as I have not seen or spoken to her in many years. Sept 4,5 and 6 are the target dates.... I hope all goes well. I find myself having difficulty using my first name in these conversations, tho' i would not say it out loud. I'm not "dad" or "father" and I understand this but still find it strange... old fashioned in some ways i suppose. Am still breathless for the most part. I wonder, are these strange emotions for a male to have? I suppose I have never been the "typical" man... lol
Again, thank you....

[healingfeeling]

hi sadone!

congrats!!! i reunited with my father 6 months ago yesterday. it is a wonderful feeling to finally make the connection i was longing for and he says the same. a weight has lifted off his shoulders and i feel complete as a person.

i wish you much luck, though you won't need it and please come back to update us!!!!!

p.s. don't worry about impressing her....i'm sure she will love you the way you are

[Patty-cake]

I have said this once and got blasted for it but I'll say it again anyway. It will be easier on your daughter and you if she gets to know her parents one at a time. I gave my daughter the information that she needed to locate her father right off the bat and she found him very quickly. All of the different stories and family members comming at her at once sent her into over-load. Since you are already trying to find her mother I guess you will have to give her the information sooner rather than later but I would suggest that she gets to know you first before making contact. If she goes ahead anyway-it's her decision.

I'm glad that you have come to this site. I wish that I had found it sooner. I have made friends and found support here. It is good to read the other forums to get insight about how adoptees and their adopted families feel about things- not that everyone feels the same. I met my daughter without a clue.

[whitsunday15]

Originally Posted by Patty-cake

I have said this once and got blasted for it but I'll say it again anyway. It will be easier on your daughter and you if she gets to know her parents one at a time. I gave my daughter the information that she needed to locate her father right off the bat and she found him very quickly. All of the different stories and family members comming at her at once sent her into over-load. Since you are already trying to find her mother I guess you will have to give her the information sooner rather than later but I would suggest that she gets to know you first before making contact. If she goes ahead anyway-it's her decision.

I 100% concure with this. It happened to me that way--finding both parents at once--and it was most definitely over-load.
That being said, congratulations on your reunion! Just take it one day at a time.