[sadnlonely]

um im 23weeks pregnant and up until now i wanted to keep my baby, now im not so sure id be a good mom, i really dont want to live anymore im such a **** up

[alicia hunter]

There are many women that have been in your spot and they make it through. You will too. You are in the right spot for help and encouragement. The people on this forum truely care and will do what we can to help you. Are you in any type of counciling to help you sort out all that you are dealing with? Is there a crisis pregnancy center in your area to help you work through this?

You will truely be in my thoughts and prayers tonight. You can make it!!! Also, do you have a church or friends to pray with you for strength, peace, and encouragement.

I wish I could hug and hold you in this time of need.

[RiverGal]

Angel, keep in mind that your hormones are all askew and raging during and after pregnancy. Whether or not you decide to keep your child or relinquish, you need some help. Sweetheart, I have a series of failed suicides...thank God. The thing you need to remember is that there are peole who care...WE care...those of us here are here for support, friendship and nonjudgemental understanding.

PLEASE...realize that "tomorrow" has a way of healing all the hurt of "today" and our hearts do mend. Give tomorrow that chance. If you want my email address, let me know and I will be here for you anytime you want to vent, cuss, kick walls or scream. We need YOU, too....

With (oh so much) Understanding,

Debra

[KellyStacy]

I read your posted message please don't be down on yourself.Things always have a way of working out.Maybe now is not the best time for you to have a baby ,but you really need to take time and think of how you honestly feel inside-only you will know the right choice.Adoption is not for everyone,but in cases its the right thing to do.There are so many couples,and singles out there desperately looking to adopt who could give your child so much love and joy.In your heart you know what is right for your little one -the whole process I can imagine is a very scary one especially if you have nobody to help you through this tough time.Raising your child is yet another option it would be hard but there is plenty of help out there.The choices you have are ones you will live with nobody else can ever say if you are right or wrong for making a choice.If you need someone to just listen you can email me Jones3513@cs.com you should not be this down on yourself.God bless you and your decision.

[RiverGal]

I just wanted to let you know that you are still in my heart and prayers and I wonder if things have gotten any clearer for you. When you feel like talking, or venting, remember that we are here for you. Hang in there, girl...you don't have to walk through this alone.

Deb

[lillyan_mcain]

I know where you are. Ive been there and done that. When I found out that I was pregnant. I was a teenager living from house to house, the father was a jack *** (If you know what I mean) no real home no real job NOTHING...by the time I had my son I convinced my self that I was not ready and that I ****ed up really bad. I got alot of help from sooo many people. My son is now 2 years old today! If there is anything I can do to help you. I have gerat referrals , parenting classes, maternity homes, trensisitional homes, adoption agencies, help with baby clothes, diapers, you name it. PM me if you need anyone to complain, talk to. I wish you the best of luck!

Lilly
Ill support you in any thing you chose

[Drewsmommy]

Do you know that most pregnant women feel like that? I have a 2 1/2 year old son, and I wanted him more than anything in the world. I had been taking care of other people's children for years, so I had so much experience, but nearly every day I wondered if I would be a good enough mother to him.

No one knows everything right off the bat. You learn as you go.
Get all the support you can and realise that your child will never expect you to be perfect. Just do what you know how to do, and when you know better, do better.

Good luck.

[soblessed]

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[Melia]

I want to speak really honest to you. I have been in your shoes and I know everything seems crazy. You will make it through this. I found out I was pregnant when I was 19 and I placed my son for adoption when I was 20. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but, it was the best thing for him and me. I am not going to preach adoption to you because it is not for everyone but I truely believe that is one of the most unselfish acts that a person can do. Take a deep breath hun. You are going to be fine no matter what you decide to do.

[Big Dreamer]

Hi,

I wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing.

Regardless of which path you choose you need to know that you matter. Though things may be tough on you right now everything will be ok.

You don’t need to go through this alone; there are so many people on this forum who truly care about you. I am one of them.

I know that you are pregnant and you are at a crossroad in your life.

I don’t know if you are in school however if you are perhaps you can contact a school counselor or a teacher. They may be able to give you some guidance and some immediate support.

They may be able to refer you to some resources to help you as you continue this journey. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to a teacher or counselors please try to contact Planned Parenthood or Social Services in your community they may be able to point you in the direction that you might need so that you can make an informed decision.

The bottom line is this is YOUR choice to make.

No one on this board is going to pressure you to make a decision. Many people have been in your position therefore they may be able to offer you some insight about what their experiences have been.

You have chosen to carry this baby to term you owe it to yourself to explore all of your options before deciding on adoption or whether or not you can parent.

Consider making a list and asking yourself

What are my goals for the next 3 or 5 years?

Can I accomplish these goals if I am parenting a child?

Will someone be available to help me or give me support if I choose to place or parent?

Look in the mirror and imagine that you are talking to your sister or your best friend what type of advice would you give her?

It is normal to feel overwhelmed, confused and depressed when you are pregnant. Your hormones are raging and you are having to make some tough decisions. The good news is that you don’t have to go through this alone.

Please see a doctor and let him or her know about how you are feeling perhaps they can give you an anti depressant that is safe so that you can clear your head without affecting the baby. Medication can only take you so far; you may need some type of counseling to help you deal with some of your emotions.

In the mean time know that we are all here for you. I am here for you and anyone else who might need some extra support.

You are an important person regardless of what your life has been like. You deserve to be heard and you need to know that you deserve to happy.

I am here for you anytime. Feel free to click on Big Dreamer and send me a Private Message or an e-mail.

Please let me know how you are doing. I really do care.

Hugs,
Maria