[SunshinesMommy]

I didn't really know where exactly to post this, but I figured it might fit here best.

Does anyone have any tattoos for/in dedication to their placed child?

Have you ever thought about getting something done in their honor?

Any opinions on such things?

I'm a fan of tattoos and I've been tossing around the idea of getting a tattoo in honor of my son, not his name or anything, just something that has meaning to me/my SO. My dad and my stepmom have/are in the process of getting tattoos for me and my sisters, so I guess it just makes sense to me to have one for my son.

[TeRi212]

Hi SunshinesMommy,

My 20th Birthday is coming up in February... and I want to get my first tattoo as a present to myself. I'm also a fan of tattoo's. I already have 4 piercings (ears, tongue and lip) but think I'm finally ready for a tattoo. I am seriously considering getting a tattoo that reminds me of my son. I placed him 18 months ago... so this birthmother experience is really new to me. I've also been wondering if it's a good idea or if it's too weird. His name is Keagan, but I meant for it to be spelled "Kigan" which in Japanese is the kanji for "prayer". So I was thinking of getting the kanji with his birth date numbers. But like I said... I'm also confused as if this is a bad idea.

[JustPeachy]

Back in the Dark Ages when I placed (ha ha) tattoos were something that only sailors and bikers got, so it didn't occur to me to get one. I never really considered them over the years, either. I think by the time they became more mainstream, I was still not sure about them for me, personally, though I do like them on other people. I think it's a great idea.

[susie_book]

Yeah, I'm getting one. Since the kid is just ten months old, I've put it off a bit--but I definitely want to have had it for as long as he can remember. I'm planning a mouse, since that's what I called him while I was pregnant: "the mouse."

[quantum]

I'm 43 and I've definately considered getting a tattoo to honor all three of my kids, the son I relinquished and the two girls I'm raising! I just haven't figured out WHAT.
I guess it doesn't help that DH hates the idea of me getting needled... lol

just remember to do something that you like, I think I would have found it a comfort over the years (weirdly enough)

[SunshinesMommy]

TeRi212: I'm pretty new to the whole "birthmother experience" too. I only placed my son a month ago. I guess I find it weird in the sense that people may ask questions. very few people know about the adoption and I don't think I'd really know how to answer any questions without opening up that whole can of worms.

As far as not knowing if it's a bad idea or not, I guess that would depend on the emotions it would bring up. Would having a tattoo that reminded you of your loss bring you comfort or grief?

susie_book: Awe, Mouse, that is adorable. I'm thinking about getting "You are my sunshine..." We never really called my son anything other than baby while I was pregnant, but his father/my SO would sing "You are my sunshine" to him and sang it to him in the hospital.

quantum: I think it would be comforting too. It'd be like having a part of him close to me again. And down the road I could always show it to him, that way he'd definately not have any reason to think that I ever forgot about him.

[susie_book]

Originally Posted by SunshinesMommy

I'm thinking about getting "You are my sunshine..." We never really called my son anything other than baby while I was pregnant, but his father/my SO would sing "You are my sunshine" to him and sang it to him in the hospital.

quantum: I think it would be comforting too. It'd be like having a part of him close to me again. And down the road I could always show it to him, that way he'd definately not have any reason to think that I ever forgot about him.

That sounds really beautiful. =) I heard someone say that it makes sense to get tattoos for your kids--people get them for boyfriends or girlfriends, and those relationships can split up, but your kids (even placed) are your kids forever.

[saxxxy]

My daughter's BirthMom is planning to get a tattoo for her three children, the two she parents and the one I parent.
She's not doing a name or date or anything like that, just something that reminds her of our daughter that goes along with the tattoo she's getting for her boys.
I'm not much into tattoos myself, but she is and so I think it is a lovely idea.

[billysmommy]

My children's first mom, myself and my husband will all be getting the same tattoo - hopefully the next time we are together. We have picked out something that represents open adoption, with an intertwined design that represents her, us and our children.
As a person who has tattoos, I think it is a great idea. My tattoos represent very special events in my life - my marriage, the death of my beloved grandmother, and the business that changed my life. Ok, and I do have one that means nothing - except that it's pretty

[yesiamfred]

I have gotten a tattoo for my daughter. I got the Triangle of Love symbol. It is a heart entwined with a triangle.....It signifies the love shared between the child, birth parent, and the adoptive parents. It is the only tattoo I have. I always wanted one but I didn't want to regret what I got....so I waited.....I was 35 when I finally got one....and I will never regret this one!