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      <title>Parents Have No Choice</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 16 Apr 2003 04:23:50 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/avoiding-foster-care-placing-older-child-adoption/101016-parents-have-no-choice.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I'm not sure if it is true in all states, but Maryland no longer accepts voluntary placement in foster or respite care for children when a family is in crisis ... they are forced to keep the child at home even if they are unable to care for him/her or "place" their child with social services,...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I'm not sure if it is true in all states, but Maryland no longer accepts voluntary placement in foster or respite care for children when a family is in crisis ... they are forced to keep the child at home even if they are unable to care for him/her or "place" their child with social services, charged legally with neglect or abandonment depending on the circumstances and the child is processed for Permanency Placement ... often referred to as adoption ... with family reunification in between.  Having experienced the need for services and narrowly avoiding legal charges, I can only state the unfairness of this ... Social Services should be there to help not to put a family further into crisis ... this may be where "placing" a child is coming from ....

Just another insight - hope it helps clear some things up.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>aMarylandfamily</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 16 Apr 2003 04:23:50 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>One mother's story...</title>
      <pubDate>Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:23:26 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/413943-one-mothers-story.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I found out I was pregnant three days after my 19th bday. I had a genetic disorder and the doctors had told me that I would never be able to have children. When we found out that I was pregnant, the birthfather felt that I had lied to him, betrayed him, and tried to trap him. He left and never...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I found out I was pregnant three days after my 19th bday. I had a genetic disorder and the doctors had told me that I would never be able to have children. When we found out that I was pregnant, the birthfather felt that I had lied to him, betrayed him, and tried to trap him. He left and never returned.

At the time, I didn't know if this was my miracle, my one chance to be a mom or if there had been a mistake and I would have another chance if I gave this one up. I didn't know if there would be health consequences for myself or the baby. If I decided to keep the baby, what kind of a life would he have? What kind of life would I have? I was lost and confused and terrified and elated all at the same time. If I hadn't been told that I was unable to have children, I would have made the decision to give him up. But since I didn't know if I would ever get another chance, in my heart, I knew I had to follow through. Open adoptions weren't really all that common at the time so it truly would have been losing him forever.

At the time, I was in the restaurant business working mostly nights and weekends. I didn't want to 'miss' the important times in my son's life like my mom had missed mine. I decided I had to go back to college. Through financial aid, student loans, and some awesome public services, with no support, financial or otherwise, from my son's father or from my family, I moved 5 hours away from everyone that I knew to pursue a dream. Rather than encouraging me, my mom told me that I would be a horrible mother and my son would be raised by strangers (daycare) and would turn out to be a hoodlum and menace to society. I was terrified.

I found really cheap housing and arranged all of my classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I worked M-W-F-S-S. I was enrolled in a program where my child care only cost me $.25/week. Yes, a quarter a week for child care! In all honesty, I actually had more income from financial aid and loans, food stamps, the medical card, WIC, and my part time job then I would have had working full time at minimum wage and not going to college. It was doable. We weren't starving (thank goodness for ramen noodles and peanut butter sandwiches) and we had a roof over our heads. It wasn't easy and there were many, many times that questioned my decision, cried, and almost gave up. Then I would look at my sleeping son and know that I had to keep going. I took 18 hours each semester and 12hours each summer session and by the time my son was 4 years old, I had graduated with a BS in accounting and found a great job. I won't lie and say that it was all easy after then, but having a decent income and a stable job definitely helps. 

After a some false starts and many mistakes along the way, I found my soul mate 4 years ago and am happily married. I have a masters degree now, a wonderful job that I love, and three beautiful children ages 18, 12, and 2. (It turns out that I had been misdiagnosed and I WAS able to have biological children.) My 'hoodlum' son is now a freshman in college studying broadcast journalism! We live in a great neighborhood in an awesome school district and have peanut butter sandwiches when we want them, not because we cant afford anything else.

The reason for writing this is to tell you that ANYTHING is possible. Even without support from family, friends, or the birth father, there are resources available to make a better life for yourself with or without a child. The decision I made would not be right for everyone, but it was the right decision for me and looking back, I don't regret it for a second.

During my last pregnancy, we were told that it was not medically advisable to have any more children. We instantly started talking about adoption to complete our family. I originally came to this forum looking for referrals on adoption agencies or facilitators that have a track record for showing birthmothers compassion and respect. We are starting the process of finding our future daughter (we currently have three boys) and want to make sure whatever company we work with is birthmother focused. As I was reading through the many posts of birthmothers showing regret at their past decisions and hopelessness about their current options, I knew I had to share my story. I wouldn't want the birthmother of our future daughter to live with pain and regret about her decision because she felt trapped or forced into it or didn't think she had any other options. I truly hope that my story is helpful and at the very least brings someone who truly wants to parent a little glimmer of hope. It is doable. 

On a side note, if anyone has a positive recommendation about an agency, facilitator, or attorney that truly places the birthmothers first, please feel free to PM me. Thanks so much for your help and I wish you all the best - sorry this post is so long.

JS]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>jstuffy1203</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:23:26 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Ideas</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 19 Sep 2012 18:58:40 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/408004-ideas.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Looking to adopt - how did you match with your families?  We are working w' an attorney but I'm not convinced it's the right way to do this.  Are agencies better?  Are you, as birthmothers more confident in agencies?  Does the term "attorney" scare you?  Please offer any feedback if you are...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Looking to adopt - how did you match with your families?  We are working w' an attorney but I'm not convinced it's the right way to do this.  Are agencies better?  Are you, as birthmothers more confident in agencies?  Does the term "attorney" scare you?  Please offer any feedback if you are willing!

Thank you so much - feedback is greatly appreciated!!

Ann]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>am2012</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 19 Sep 2012 18:58:40 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Failed? Guess I'm a failure.</title>
      <pubDate>Mon, 05 Mar 2012 22:55:09 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/400810-failed-guess-im-failure.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Adoption seemed like the only reasonable option for me. I just wanted my baby to have a family. My family wasn't supportive of the pregnancy. Her father refused to acknowledge me when I refused to terminate. My choice to not terminate caused me to lose everything that mattered to me. I still...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Adoption seemed like the only reasonable option for me. I just wanted my baby to have a family. My family wasn't supportive of the pregnancy. Her father refused to acknowledge me when I refused to terminate. My choice to not terminate caused me to lose everything that mattered to me. I still couldn't abort.

Adoption was the right thing to do. She'll have a family. Siblings, grandparents, a mom & a dad... All I had was myself! Or so I thought....
 I was matched with a beautiful family. PAmom became my best friend. She was there for me to talk to & relate with. My friends and family weren't supportive of the pregnancy at all, I felt betrayed so I decided to spare myself the criticism and not share my plans with them right away.

Over the months my family began to stop criticizing. My friends became more interested in my progress. I, for the most part was always very short with issues regarding  the LO. I never posted her  ultrasound pictures on facebook. Never posted belly pictures either. When people would say did you pick a name I'd simply reply no.

While I didn't plan to get pregnant and give this baby away.... What else could I do? For all I knew at the time I didn't have anyone to help me in any way especially emotionally. How could I parent knowing that I lost everyone I loved and this child would have no one in this world other than myself?

As time went by I started to realize there could be hope.. People started stopping by, calling offering to help. It caused alot of confusion.... When I made the decision to place my baby I did so because I thought I'd never get my family back if I didn't. How could I raise a baby without my famiy helping?

I began to consider the idea of parenting my child. I asked the PAPs and the agency for some space. I was torn, heart broken and confused. The agency backed off. PAmom kept texting. When I didn't answer she'd email me. She would say she was worried so of course I was guilted into replying. This went on for a couple weeks. Each time I'd remind her that I just needed space to think because I have been WAYYY TOOO EMOTIONAL!

I received a packet of pre adoption paper work on Friday.... I threw up when I read those documents. I decided to sleep on it and try again in the morning. That sleep never came. I was up all night crying. I knew that I had to tell these loving people that I made a huge mistake. It took me 12 hours to finish the email. I couldn't figure out what to say or how to say it. So I typed.... With tears in my eyes not knowing whether I should say I was certain or not... Is there hope or not.... I just wasn't sure because my emotions were and still are everywhere.

In the mist of all of this I was informed that my surprise baby shower was scheduled for Sunday!!!!!!!! WTHeck? baby shower?? Who cares that much? I didn't know what to say, I asked why I was getting a baby shower!! No good answer... I just turned my phone off so I could think.

Well... I sent the email... I apologized... I didn't expect a reply but I really wanted one. Even if it was just F-You B-word.... I really needed to hear something from them... This was saturday evening, still nothing. I understand they are hurt and it's my fault. However, for six months we were open and honest with each other about EVERYTHING. She told me no matter what happened she loved and respected me. She said I was strong and she believed in me. I guess I'm not the only one who changed my mind.

I know I'm wrong for being upset. I obviously made a mistake making an adoption plan in my situation. I should have considered what I wanted instead of letting everyone else determine my feelings about single parenting. I feel soooo bad and guilty for all of this. 

My baby is due in 2 days and I have slept 15 hours in three days. I've had two nightmares that she is stillborn. I keep imagining her being dead. I'm hurt, terrified and scared. I want nothing more than to hold my baby girl in my arms and promise her the exact thing I promised her when I was matched with them. "I'll make sure you have a family who will unconditionally love you, nurture you, keep you safe and give you all you need." The only difference now is that I am determined to make it happen as opposed to depending onother people to do it for me.

Why do I feel so bad? So sad? I wanted her to have a family and she has one here with me and many people all around waiting for her arrival. I know I will get alot BS for this post. I see the way PAPs talk about "failed adoption" but I'm ready to hear it.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>Givingherafamily</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Mon, 05 Mar 2012 22:55:09 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Help from past B-moms?</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:26:45 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/404111-help-past-b-moms.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I find myself broke and unexpectedly pregnant. I don't want to be a welfare mom and i don't feel i'm okay with abortion either. Adoption seems like a good idea, but how do i take care of myself for the next 6 months or so? Any previous B-moms in similar situations (broke, unemployed, still in...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I find myself broke and unexpectedly pregnant. I don't want to be a welfare mom and i don't feel i'm okay with abortion either. Adoption seems like a good idea, but how do i take care of myself for the next 6 months or so? Any previous B-moms in similar situations (broke, unemployed, still in university) have any suggestions?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>superirish</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:26:45 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Are there specific agencies that match birthparents of older kids and couples?</title>
      <pubDate>Mon, 10 Dec 2007 07:00:47 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/avoiding-foster-care-placing-older-child-adoption/319440-are-there-specific-agencies-match-birthparents-older-kids-couples.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hi,

Although husband and I can have kids, we decided we would like to adopt 2 older girls (2 up to 10yo).

We fear going to foster care system because we have heard a lot about the issues that kids who go through foster care have... We thought that probably an open adoption where the child was...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi,

Although husband and I can have kids, we decided we would like to adopt 2 older girls (2 up to 10yo).

We fear going to foster care system because we have heard a lot about the issues that kids who go through foster care have... We thought that probably an open adoption where the child was never placed in foster care would be less hurtful for the child, and easer on everyone involved.

My question is: is there any agency specific for this situation (I really don't want a baby... I wanted a child older than 2 or 3, and up to 10yo)?

Every agency I look for in my area offers either foster care or baby domestic adoption....

Also, do you have any idea how much this kind of agency would cost? We are both professionals (he is a middle school teacher and I am a pediatric physical therapist), but I would not like to pay a fortune in an adoption process. Of course my future kids are worth anything but when I see agencies charging 10.000, 20.000 etc, I feel like they are selling me a child... don't know... I know it is not buying, but when I think of it, It feels like... I'd rather put this money through college fund....

If anyone has a place to indicate, and informations, I would dearly appreciate!!!

thanks!!!]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>mamae</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Mon, 10 Dec 2007 07:00:47 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Pondering</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 05 Dec 2012 18:13:03 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/410669-pondering.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Just looking for some thoughts about a rather odd predicament I find myself in.

I never wanted children, and still don't.  The last time the birth control failed, I had an abortion.  It was the right decision at the time, and I have no regrets.

Here I am again, and abortion doesn't sound...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Just looking for some thoughts about a rather odd predicament I find myself in.

I never wanted children, and still don't.  The last time the birth control failed, I had an abortion.  It was the right decision at the time, and I have no regrets.

Here I am again, and abortion doesn't sound right this time.  Don't know why, it simply doesn't for whatever reason.  I am still not interested in parenting.  So I thought, adoption, maybe?

The first person I spoke about this to laughed hysterically.  So did the second.  The reason is my age.  I am 47.  The father is 55.  My friends have assured me that no one wants a casserole made from such old ingredients.  (My post here is intended to get opinions from people more familiar with adoption.)

Certainly, the odds are rather poor for a healthy outcome at my age.  I would be happy to do all the testing, and terminate the pregnancy if something turns out to be frightfully wrong.  Unfortunately, the testing doesn't catch everything.  And, well, the ingredients really are past their prime.

I have done well, and could amply afford to give a child a good life.  I just don't want to.  I know how awful that sounds, but it is what it is.  So the questions are, is it even possible that anyone would be interested in adopting the casserole made from expired goods?  And secondly, what happens if someone does sign up for it, and then something is tragically wrong when it's born?  I end up stuck with not just something I never wanted, but a special needs something I never wanted?

The father is a non-issue.  He doesn't want any more children, and is committed to supporting any decision I make.  I am in good health, and don't need any money for expenses or anything.  I'm pretty much standing on the fence, wondering which way to jump.

Thoughts?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>BananaSplit</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 05 Dec 2012 18:13:03 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Just Alone</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2005 19:07:00 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/single-parenting/228684-just-alone.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I am 22 years old and I'm already a single parent.  The father of the child that I am pregnant with now is in a bind.  He is 42 years old with four kids and three different women that he had them with.  I DO NOT want to have an abortion but that's what he's pushing for.  I have had an abortion...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I am 22 years old and I'm already a single parent.  The father of the child that I am pregnant with now is in a bind.  He is 42 years old with four kids and three different women that he had them with.  I DO NOT want to have an abortion but that's what he's pushing for.  I have had an abortion before and I remember the empty sick feeling that ir gave me for the lonest time.  He keeps saying how he understands what a hard decision that is but he doesn't.  He isn't carrying this baby inside of him.  I wake up every morning and don't have the luxury of pretending this isn't real.  I have the symptoms to remind me.  He doesn't understand.  I think that he's being selfish with the whole decision, it's all about him.  I just want to be clear on what I want to do but first I have to figure out what that it.  Any advice?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>doinitalone</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2005 19:07:00 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>In need of help-soon</title>
      <pubDate>Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:30:49 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/339074-in-need-help-soon.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I just gave birth last Tuesday to a baby girl. I am single and only 20 years old. I have been going to counseling and had decided to place her for adoption, but that all changed after I gave birth to her. As soon as I had her, I fell in love. She is in foster care now, and I am hating every minute...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I just gave birth last Tuesday to a baby girl. I am single and only 20 years old. I have been going to counseling and had decided to place her for adoption, but that all changed after I gave birth to her. As soon as I had her, I fell in love. She is in foster care now, and I am hating every minute of it. And I am mad at myself for putting her there. I am going to see my counselor tomorrow and I told her that I was thinking that my decision has changed- I now want to parent her. I have a very supportive family (mom, dad, and sister). The rest of my family doesnt even know I was pregnant because most of my pregnancy took place while I was away at school-but I am sure they will love her. I know I will have some explaining to do if I keep her. And I know life wont be easy. I know I will have to sacrafice certain things because of her, and I am okay with that. I didnt think 'love at first sight' existed, until I met her. I cant stop thinking about her. I thought I knew what I wanted to do-- I didnt think I wanted to see her, or hold her-- but I ended up seeing her, holding her, feeding her, and changing her. Am I wrong for now wanting to parent her? Is it possible to raise her and give her a good life while being only 20 and single? (I know Ill have my family there, but overall itll be my responsibility.) Im afraid I have already failed as a parent. I wasnt even willing to give us a chance- and now I am crying every night because I want her back. If someone could give me their opinion or life experience I would really appreciate it. Thanks.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>famousgloria9</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:30:49 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Scared, Alone, 37 weeks pregnant!!</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 26 Apr 2009 08:26:00 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/357824-scared-alone-37-weeks-pregnant.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hi
I have two beautiful girls ages 3 and 1 from a previous relationship.  In June we separated and the girls and I moved out on our own.  I got into a rebound relationship (or so I thought, he actually had a gf and baby on the way already) in which I ended up with an unplanned pregnancy.  The...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi
I have two beautiful girls ages 3 and 1 from a previous relationship.  In June we separated and the girls and I moved out on our own.  I got into a rebound relationship (or so I thought, he actually had a gf and baby on the way already) in which I ended up with an unplanned pregnancy.  The father of my first two girls told me I had to have an abortion or he wouldnt get back together with me, I couldnt do that and eventually he got over it and we got back together.  I haven't felt very close to this baby but I was somewhat excited at times during this pregnancy. The father hasnt been involved and recently my boyfriend broke up with me for some girl he didnt even know at the time who he met online.  I am feeling depressed and scared and alone.  I'm having trouble taking care of myself nevermind 3 children.  The father of this baby has started vandilizing my house.  I've started to think about adoption.  I'm scared to make a hasty decison based on my depressive state.  I dont want to regret this decison in the long run.  I'm scared and alone.  I don't know how to make this decison but I only have 3 weeks left in my pregnancy and I feel rushed.  What are some things any of you have used to help make this incrediably hard decision.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>Mizz_Momma</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sun, 26 Apr 2009 08:26:00 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Where to start?</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jul 2012 12:40:58 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/405274-where-start.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Good afternoon,

My husband and I are trying to independently adopt.  We talked with many (10+) agencies, but kept feeling like it was more about the business and the profit than about looking out for the expectant mother or the potential adoptive family (or the baby for that matter).  We just...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Good afternoon,

My husband and I are trying to independently adopt.  We talked with many (10+) agencies, but kept feeling like it was more about the business and the profit than about looking out for the expectant mother or the potential adoptive family (or the baby for that matter).  We just could not get beyond a sense that something was not right.

So now, we are going to use a very well-respected, ethical adoption attorney for legal purposes, but are on our own for making connections with women considering placing their baby for adoption.  

My question is- For those who have placed their baby via independent adoption, how did you meet the adoptive parents?  Did you contact them first?  If so, how did you find out about them?  Or did they contact you?  

So far, we have emailed everyone we know, made a Facebook page about hoping to start our family, shared information via little cards with our information and picture on them, made a YouTube video, and a blog. But if there are other ideas I am not thinking of, please share.  I've heard of using classified ads, but that just sounds wrong, 'advertising' for a baby.

Thanks in advance for any help you can provide!

Jenny]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>nonanator</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jul 2012 12:40:58 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Can someone please help answer my question</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 12 Jul 2012 11:43:41 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/405537-can-someone-please-help-answer-my-question.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello

I am a single mother from the UK. I have a 1 year old daughter and her father hasn't been in her life and lives on the other side of the world.

My best friend is gay and all he wants to be is a father. I hate the thought of my daughter growing up without a father. I'm in no rush to get...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hello

I am a single mother from the UK. I have a 1 year old daughter and her father hasn't been in her life and lives on the other side of the world.

My best friend is gay and all he wants to be is a father. I hate the thought of my daughter growing up without a father. I'm in no rush to get into a relationship either. She is quite attached to my male friend and we come to the conclusion that perhaps he could adopt her. 

Does anyone know if this would be possible and how would I go about doing this?!

Really need some advice. (I'm from the UK)

Many thanks]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>confused29</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Thu, 12 Jul 2012 11:43:41 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Question for bmom..</title>
      <pubDate>Sat, 13 Aug 2011 05:58:50 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/393826-question-bmom.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[We are waiting on the adoption list to be picked as parents. It's a very hard time this waiting...
But we would like to know what you are looking for when parents profile are shown to you. Religion, appearance, life style, personality...etc?

I am just trying to get some help ..

thank...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[We are waiting on the adoption list to be picked as parents. It's a very hard time this waiting...
But we would like to know what you are looking for when parents profile are shown to you. Religion, appearance, life style, personality...etc?

I am just trying to get some help ..

thank you
much love]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>bluebutterfly78</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sat, 13 Aug 2011 05:58:50 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>How to care for yourself when pregnant, broke</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:50:32 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/404113-how-care-yourself-when-pregnant-broke.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[So I'm a broke grad student and now I'm pregnant. Will get degree soon, but no job prospects. How do I care for myself until the baby is born if I choose adoption?]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[So I'm a broke grad student and now I'm pregnant. Will get degree soon, but no job prospects. How do I care for myself until the baby is born if I choose adoption?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>superirish</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:50:32 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Reaching out to Bio Parents before CPS gets involved....</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 14:51:48 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/avoiding-foster-care-placing-older-child-adoption/400232-reaching-out-bio-parents-before-cps-gets-involved.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hi All,
We are an adoptive family who are foster/adopt approved and have a private home study as well.  We are trying to reach out to families BEFORE CPS gets involved and the children enter the system but have no idea how to do so.  Have any of you had any ever tried to reach out to families?  ...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi All,
We are an adoptive family who are foster/adopt approved and have a private home study as well.  We are trying to reach out to families BEFORE CPS gets involved and the children enter the system but have no idea how to do so.  Have any of you had any ever tried to reach out to families?   We don't care about age or race and are open to special needs and sibling sets.  I just don't know how to do this.....

No luck yet with our foster/adopt home study.  It's kind of discouraging.  
Thanks!]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>Hoping2AdoptSC</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 14:51:48 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Adoption Support</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2012 15:53:16 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/400680-adoption-support.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello,

I placed a baby for adoption when I was 15 years old. I want to share the joy of adoption on both ends, the giving and receiving. I have created a facebook page and blog in hopes of provding advice, hearing stories, and sharing experiences. Please "like" the page and share your...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hello,

I placed a baby for adoption when I was 15 years old. I want to share the joy of adoption on both ends, the giving and receiving. I have created a facebook page and blog in hopes of provding advice, hearing stories, and sharing experiences. Please "like" the page and share your story!

[url=http://www.facebook.com/pages/Adoption-Share-the-Love/360660333968635]Adoption: Share the Love | Facebook[/url]

Love,
Haley]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>Haleynicole333</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2012 15:53:16 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Adopting an older infant/Toddler</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 27 Jun 2008 18:46:54 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/avoiding-foster-care-placing-older-child-adoption/337758-adopting-older-infanttoddler.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I posted this in another forum, but thought maybe more would see this here and could offer more advice.
We have 2 adopted children. My daughter is 4 and our son is 8 months. We're thinking about adopting number 3 but I can not do the whole newborn "thing" again. We would like to start the process...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I posted this in another forum, but thought maybe more would see this here and could offer more advice.
We have 2 adopted children. My daughter is 4 and our son is 8 months. We're thinking about adopting number 3 but I can not do the whole newborn "thing" again. We would like to start the process soon. But I don't even know where to begin. I'm thinking no younger than 6-8 months, no older than 3-4 years. We do not want to go through the foster care system. 
Has anyone ever tried to find a birthfamily that wanted to place their child?
Other than word of mouth, how can we go about this? I have already emailed our attorney who helped in our childrens adoptions, but I haven't been able to chat to her about it. 
We can't afford to go through an agency. (the only one around us, that i am aware of, places only newborns)
What other options would there be? International adoption is also not an option
If any one could help me get started I would appreciative. 
Thanks so much]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>September4</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Fri, 27 Jun 2008 18:46:54 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Potential Housing Benefits for Birthmothers -Please Advice</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2012 18:40:09 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/400438-potential-housing-benefits-birthmothers-please-advice.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello , 

I am considering adoption for financial reasons. I am already mother of 2 and as much as I love my kids a 3rd child right now would be very very difficult for me to care for for financial reasons. I am weighing my options right now as I am pretty firm on what I would like to do. And I...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hello , 

I am considering adoption for financial reasons. I am already mother of 2 and as much as I love my kids a 3rd child right now would be very very difficult for me to care for for financial reasons. I am weighing my options right now as I am pretty firm on what I would like to do. And I know that the most important thing in this process is to make sure that this child is placed with a great family that could give him/her everything they deserve and more. That being said I have a delicate topic in which I'd like to receive advice.

I really started looking for info on adoption after I told my mother I was pregnant and I was freaking out. She talking to her friends heard of a friend of a friend that have been trying to get pregnant for more than 10 years , a couple of attorneys, great family, well financially stable and willing to give this child as they quoted "The world".  

Upon my research , I recently called 1800adoption - I found out that through certain agencies I could be eligible ( I def. am - living in my mothers mobile home right now and its 55 and over so my days are counted) for housing assistance. I've Googled everywhere to see what info I could find on birth mothers receiving this type of help because in my case that would benefit greatly me and my 2 kids. I am not in it for the money but I am in this situation where if I could get housing benefits from an agency I'd rather do that, but also really like this family but don't know how to go about it to ask that maybe they would help with this instead? I really just want the best for this baby but I really also need help with my current situation. So how can I find out in which way I could have help with the housing assistant or a way to maybe reach out to this couple that have been trying for so long and deserve a shot at being parents? What would you say to them? Can someone that had assistance in this situation please advice? Thank You- Lovingly , -K]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>moonfrenxy</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2012 18:40:09 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Question for expectant/birth mothers</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:15:31 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/400313-question-expectantbirth-mothers.html</link>
      <description></description>
      <dc:creator>bluebutterfly78</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:15:31 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>All Birthmoms and Adoptive parents- Pls Help</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 06 Nov 2011 08:18:38 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/396758-all-birthmoms-adoptive-parents-pls-help.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Me and my husband are working with an Adoption Agency in MN to adopt infant domestically. We attended an adoption outreach program yesterday where we were told to make our own profiles online and keep networking. Birthmoms, please advise what you might be looking for in an adoptive parent profile....]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Me and my husband are working with an Adoption Agency in MN to adopt infant domestically. We attended an adoption outreach program yesterday where we were told to make our own profiles online and keep networking. Birthmoms, please advise what you might be looking for in an adoptive parent profile. Do birthmoms look for only christian families?
Adoptive parents, please advise where exactly do you suggest posting our profiles? 
We are really excited and looking forward to having an open infant adoption.
Any help will be highly appreciated.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>sanc_mn</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sun, 06 Nov 2011 08:18:38 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Unplanned Pregnancy, don't know what to doo</title>
      <pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:24:39 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/399547-unplanned-pregnancy-dont-know-what-doo.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I don't exactly know how to start this off, but here goes, I am currently 22 years old and 24 weeks pregnant with my first child and this pregnancy was completely unplanned. I met the father of my child and got pregnant literally a week after knowing him. *He removed the condom during intercourse...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I don't exactly know how to start this off, but here goes, I am currently 22 years old and 24 weeks pregnant with my first child and this pregnancy was completely unplanned. I met the father of my child and got pregnant literally a week after knowing him. *He removed the condom during intercourse without my knowledge*. So here I am. I never considered abortion just because I believe this situation is my responsibility to deal with. I had been planning all along to keep my child but as I found out more about the father of my child I have become more and more weary of keeping the child around him. He lied to me about everything under the moon, and I recently found out he is a felon and under 5 years probation for deadly assault with  a firearm. I don't exactly understand how he never went to prison for this but it is besides the point I suppose. He is fully aware of the pregnancy and has threatened to take the child from me multiple times. There is no way he would even consider signing his rights away. I've found myself lately contemplating adoption to keep this innocent baby away from his father. I myself lost my job when they found out I was pregnant and have been receiving all the support possible from my mother. I've come to a dead end in this issue because I've read through multiple sources online that a birth father needs to be involved in the adoption process, which I know he will never agree to. I don't know what to do in regards to exploring the adoption process more as well as the option of keeping my child and ways to protect us from his father. I havent been able to sleep because of this and Im trying to keep calm. Any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated, I just need some support right now and don't know where to turn. Thank you so much.:thanks:  [/FONT]]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>ashleyc223</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:24:39 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Unplanned pregnancy - now what....</title>
      <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 10:33:55 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/390591-unplanned-pregnancy-now-what.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[This is one of the heaviest things I have ever had on my shoulders, and I may have done something that will affect the rest of my life as well as screw up many others' lives.  To paint a brief picture, I have been with my girlfriend for several years, and the marriage proposal was just around the...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[This is one of the heaviest things I have ever had on my shoulders, and I may have done something that will affect the rest of my life as well as screw up many others' lives.  To paint a brief picture, I have been with my girlfriend for several years, and the marriage proposal was just around the corner.  I was hanging out and discussing some of my issues vs. her own issues.  Over drinks, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.  That was mistake #1.  I didn't have a condom with me and I took her word that she was on birth control....mistake #2.  Last week (4 weeks later) she tells me that she is late.  She took two pregnancy tests and they were both positive.  The blood test hasn't been done yet, but I know the possibility of a false positive is so small that I don't really need to be concerned with that for now.  This "friend" tells me that I was the only guy she had sex with at the time.  She has also had an abortion in the past, so when I initially brought up the idea, she said she wasn't opposed to it, but later that day she said she was 100% against it, but there were other options (adoption, etc.).  One thing I found extremely odd and out of place was that a few days before she broke this news to me, she sent me a message saying that we would have made a great couple.  This also made me question the fact about her actually taking birth control (odds are 1 in 1000 when taken properly), and made me wonder if this was done intentionally?   We have only ever been friends without any romantic involvement and it will never be that way.  What happened was purely physical and wrong.  But since this is her body, I must respect her decision to continue through the pregnancy.  I have several things at stake here.  I am most concerned about how devastated my girlfriend will be when I break the news to her.  I love her so much and she has shown me nothing but unconditional love and has done nothing whatsoever to deserve what I did.  Her heart is going to shatter in a million pieces.  Furthermore, the trauma that my family and her family are going to face is just unfathomable.  The mother of this child made a comment about how this could be her last chance to have a child and she doesn't want to give it up, which I found extremely selfish because that puts quite a burden on me.  I begged for her to consider adoption because I strongly believe that every child should have the opportunity to grow up in a strong, loving-parent home.  If she decides to keep this child for herself, this child is getting a raw deal from day 1, as the mother and myself will never have any kind of relationship.  
I am meeting the mother this evening to talk face to face about options and get some clarity for myself.
I have told a few friends about the situation I am in, but because they are friends, they are biased.  I now come to the world of strangers for an unbiased set of opinions.
I have slept very little, eaten very little, lost 7 lbs in the last 6 days and cannot concentrate on anything that I do.  I am sure this is common reaction to an unplanned pregnancy. 

You have no idea how much I value your thoughts and opinions right now.  Am I wrong or right to push the issue of adoption?  I also would prefer that she keep my name anonymous when people begin to ask who the father is.  I feel that its not her place to throw my name around for something that happened as a mistake we made.  It should be my responsibility to handle that.

If you managed to read this entire post, I really appreciate it and look forward to any thoughts, recommendations, opinions, what have you.]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>pooched</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 10:33:55 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>pregnant by date rape, best friend is adoptive mother</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:27:24 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/398650-pregnant-date-rape-best-friend-adoptive-mother.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I am 26 years old, I have a 4 year old son from a failed marriage, and last summer I was the victim of date rape, resulting in pregnancy. I didn't know I was pregnant for the first 3 months, and during this 3 month period I was helping my best friend "T" and her husband "J" raise money for an...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I am 26 years old, I have a 4 year old son from a failed marriage, and last summer I was the victim of date rape, resulting in pregnancy. I didn't know I was pregnant for the first 3 months, and during this 3 month period I was helping my best friend "T" and her husband "J" raise money for an international adoption. I approached T with the idea of adopting the child I am carrying, and after much discussion with with her and her husband, they agreed that they would adopt this child if it turned out to be a girl (they were wanting a girl out of the international adoption). At the ultrasound, we found out she would be a girl, and immediately, the ball started rolling. They picked out a name, and began talking to a family practice attorney. We found out that we can do this adoption with very little cost (which had already been raised) and very little chance of heartbreak. 

After she is born T and J are moving access the country for a very good job for J. I will get letters and pictures of the little girl if I want them, and it will be up to her new parents to tell her that she was adopted, and if she asks later in life (no earlier than adolescence) then we will tell her that I am her birth mother, and let her talk to me all she wants and ask as many questions as she wants. The only stipulation is that she will never know that she is the product of a day rape. Since her mom and I are best friends, and have been since high school, I will always be around in her life, but she will not know, unless she asks that I gave birth to her.

Does anyone have a similar experience with something like this, or any aspect of this unorthodox adoption plan? How did it go, did it work well for you, for the child, for the adoptive parents? I'm nervous about the whole process,what I'll feel afterward, how the relationships will all change, etc. Any advice?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>angeleyes737</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:27:24 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>private or agency</title>
      <pubDate>Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:43:21 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/398718-private-agency.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[im asking for advice on which i should go through..ive talked to both. Both have told me what wrong with the other im wondering from personal expierience...also am i putting this thread in the right place?:thanks:]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[im asking for advice on which i should go through..ive talked to both. Both have told me what wrong with the other im wondering from personal expierience...also am i putting this thread in the right place?:thanks:]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>bmlookingforadvice87</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:43:21 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>agency vs. private</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2012 19:03:41 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/398505-agency-vs-private.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[not sure if this is the proper place to post this..if it needs to go somewhere else, moderators please move it.


as a birthmother, I placed my first child in a private adoption. we had some issues with finances and the practice of the prospective adoptive parents paying for "expenses". I was...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[not sure if this is the proper place to post this..if it needs to go somewhere else, moderators please move it.


as a birthmother, I placed my first child in a private adoption. we had some issues with finances and the practice of the prospective adoptive parents paying for "expenses". I was offered money to cover my rent, utilities, insurance premiums, food, travel..etc. I followed along, taking money to pay for things that I had no problem paying for myself. I did not know that the adoptive parents struggled to cover everything. I learned later about their financial situation. I don't want to blame everything on how expensive the adoption was, but 10yrs later, they still haven't financially recovered. :mad:   when my second child was born, I was fully aware of how much money was being paid and refused to participate in the "sucking" money from the prospective parents part of adoption. baby was placed privately, I paid my own expenses. when baby H was born, her father immediately created problems which I am still fighting. baby H's legal issues have cost triple digits, and since we're not quite done, I'm still footing the bill. anyone who would like more information on that situation, I'd be happy to explain more, either privately or on a different thread. so I do have some background with adoption, and since I am currently expecting I decided to look online at what is being offered to those "facing an unplanned pregnancy". I've read enough to make me sick.
so, I'm here to ask others..
1) did you talk with more than one agency?
2) why did you choose the one you did?
3) if you chose private, what helped you to make that decision?
4) please share through PM (private message) the name of your agency and any notes about them, good or bad.
5) do you think that agencies will be honest with me about their fees and services, since I'm not the one paying their bill?


in making an adoption plan, I want the absolute best for my child..and it shouldn't cost the prospective parents their last dime and a promise of everything earned for the next ten years!
why do I care about how much they spend???  every dollar spent on the process is money that could have been spent on the child. I have no problem paying for services, but do object to making others weathly from "my mistake".]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>marysbaby</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2012 19:03:41 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Other moms considering adoption/have placed baby for adoption?</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 27 Jul 2011 17:06:06 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/393174-other-moms-considering-adoptionhave-placed-baby-adoption.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hi, I'm new here and I'm due 1-20-11. I'm considering placing the baby for adoption. I'm a mom of 2 children ages 8 and 12. I'm hoping to find other moms who are either currently pregnant and considering adoption or other women who were already moms when they placed a child for adoption. I have...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi, I'm new here and I'm due 1-20-11. I'm considering placing the baby for adoption. I'm a mom of 2 children ages 8 and 12. I'm hoping to find other moms who are either currently pregnant and considering adoption or other women who were already moms when they placed a child for adoption. I have concerns about how it would affect my children if I were to decide on adoption. Any help would be appreciated.. replies to this post.. also feel free to message me or friend request. I'd love some new friends. Thanks]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>Hope1030</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 27 Jul 2011 17:06:06 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>So Many Emotions...9ish wks pregnant</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 22:59:30 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-support/398401-so-many-emotions9ish-wks-pregnant.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I'm 21 and my boyfriend and I have experienced homelessness off and on since January. We were both lucky enough to be seasonally employed this holiday season...but now we're broke with a newly purchased car that's having registration issues and then, BOOM. I'm pregnant. We moved in with my mother...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I'm 21 and my boyfriend and I have experienced homelessness off and on since January. We were both lucky enough to be seasonally employed this holiday season...but now we're broke with a newly purchased car that's having registration issues and then, BOOM. I'm pregnant. We moved in with my mother and off the streets in October when she extended an invitation from across the country. My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for five years and while we are very much in love and look forward to having kids...we both don't know how we can afford to right now. We're both job hunting. I want desperately to go to school so I'm not stuck in the same entry-level dead-end job pool forever. We're considering adoption, but he is heartbroken at the idea of our firstborn being raised by someone else. Both of us are nervous about our Jewish child being raised with another religion. And then there's this unspoken fear that we both have that we won't be able to make it through the pregnancy and birth and then just hand the child over. He's promised to stay with me and support me no matter what and our relationship, for all of its current stressors, is pretty solid. How can I make a decision like this?]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>daystar</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 22:59:30 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>In search of something else. Do i go my own path as a bm??</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:06:27 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/398374-in-search-something-else-do-i-go-my-own-path-bm.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I personally dont even know what i want to say or how to say it. Im on this site now looking for maybe a different agency? or maybe looking for the adoptive parents myself i have no clue really. My son was dopted to a wonderful couple in 2010. I adore them but dont want to go through the company i...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I personally dont even know what i want to say or how to say it. Im on this site now looking for maybe a different agency? or maybe looking for the adoptive parents myself i have no clue really. My son was dopted to a wonderful couple in 2010. I adore them but dont want to go through the company i did again. I felt deserted after he was born. I dont need or deserve accolades for what i did i just wanted someone to talk to. i dont know :( . so anywho im in my 12th week so i have alot of time to figure out how i want this adoption proccess to go....any advice?:coffee:]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>bmlookingforadvice87</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:06:27 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Are there agencies or facilitators that place toddlers?</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 02 Aug 2011 06:25:46 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/avoiding-foster-care-placing-older-child-adoption/393396-are-there-agencies-facilitators-place-toddlers.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello

Ideally I would like to adopt a toddler (Domestic) up to 5 years old.

I am a single woman with an approved home study in Maryland.


Does anyone know of organizations that specialize in placing older children?

Thank you so much]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hello

Ideally I would like to adopt a toddler (Domestic) up to 5 years old.

I am a single woman with an approved home study in Maryland.


Does anyone know of organizations that specialize in placing older children?

Thank you so much]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>MarylandLady</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Tue, 02 Aug 2011 06:25:46 +0000</pubDate>
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      <title>Are there any birthmothers who have adopted?</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 29 Nov 2011 15:13:55 +0000</pubDate>
      <link>http://forums.adoption.com/considering-your-options/397501-are-there-any-birthmothers-who-have-adopted.html</link>
      <description><![CDATA[I'm a birthmother of the greatest 13 year old who has ever graced this planet. It was an open adoption because I was adopted at birth in a closed adoption and I think open is better for the child. I have never regretted my choice. 

I am now on a waiting list to be an adoptive mother in an open...]]></description>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I'm a birthmother of the greatest 13 year old who has ever graced this planet. It was an open adoption because I was adopted at birth in a closed adoption and I think open is better for the child. I have never regretted my choice. 

I am now on a waiting list to be an adoptive mother in an open adoption. Is there anyone else in this situation? Are there other birthmothers who have adopted?

Blessed be for all of us who have participated in the joy and struggle of adoption]]></content:encoded>
      <dc:creator>sdurant</dc:creator>
      <pubDate>Tue, 29 Nov 2011 15:13:55 +0000</pubDate>
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