[paperchasingmom]

Wow, I think, hands down, everyone here is agreeing to keep them together and it should be especially heartwarming to hear that us hopeful adoptive mothers would be thrilled to be presented with twins, for I'm sure that's half your question....

Your questions probably being, do you want to place them together, is it best for the babies to be together, then, if so, would there be willing loving adoptive families that would love them both and be able to adequately care for both of them!!!

And the answer is a resounding yes, yes, and yes!!!!

I have twins and triplets all over my family so this is normal for us...My father's sisters are twins, my cousin had twins, my other cousin had triplets, and well, it was just a given that I would too...

But, that joy was never to be found, at least, the biological way....I am waiting to be doubly blessed...that would be the ultimate, like everyone is saying....

For we know that in keeping them together, that although these precious twins wouldn't have their birthmother with them, they would have each other....

But if they were adopted separately, they might understand being adopted, but later on in life, when they do find out about each other, they will probably never understand why then, at the very least, why couldn't they have been raised together!

And my husband and I have always said during this waiting adoption process, if there's any kind of siblings, they're coming too!!!! We could never, ever separate them from each other...it's sad enough that they are separated from their birthmother, there is absolutely NO reason why they should HAVE to be separated from their sibling!

Like the other post said, if the adoptive parents you initially choose don't want twins, go on to the next family, because they are truly NOT the ones to raise your precious babies!!!!

I hope this rests your heart a little sweetie...Take good care of yourself, eat well, take your vitamins, rest, and God will give you a peace about your journey...

I also think too, that, if you're up for it, at the very least a semi-open adoption, along with legal binding wording giving you yearly pictures and information regarding your little ones...plus, maybe even meeting the adoptive parents first...

Like I said in another post, a mere birthmother letter might not be enough for someone in your position...

Take care and God's greatest blessings and peace to you...

Melody

[withopenarms]

Hi, I say keep them together.....being a mom of two bio children (not twins) . I still have always wanted twins. That is a question my husband and I asked eachother . After decising to adopt now that our daughter is three. We both said looked at eachother and said of course . We would take twins..You would twice bless a family....There are so many that would love to have not only one but two.....

[Pixie]

I can't imagine not keeping twins together. Being a twin is so special....

There are many adoptive families who would welcome twins...we have been presented for twin situations before....we have two adopted children now and would gladly adopt twins. It doesn't seem overwhelming to me since I've had experience caring for two infants at once before. I bet there are lots of families out there who have either cared for two infants at once or have adopted two close together in age and want to adopt twins. Most would feel twins to be a double blessing! Good luck to you!

[tincan]

I am going to be a birthmother of twins. I will not seperate them.

[HappyTwinsMom]

...and I can't imagine them not being together. They have a very strong bond and a connection to one another that I will probably never completely understand. When I asked the pediatrician at their 18-month check-up if I should be concerned that they weren't talking much, she said "no way...they're talking to each other all the time." And it's true...I watch them interact every day and see their communication. Also, they care for and protect each other. It's really very sweet to watch. When Hartley was sick a few weeks ago and sitting on my lap feeling punky, Sarah kept bringing her toys and blankies and bottles...and patting her back and giving her kisses and hugs.

In my personal opinion, I don't think a reputable adoption agency would even consider separating twins. Ours didn't, and neither did their birthmom.

[tincan]

Most birthmothers will not seperate twins.

[lemonchutney]

My aparents already had a 6 year old, a 3 year old, and were ready to adopt their third child when the agency called my mom and asked if she would consider adopting twins. She said, "Well if I were having a biological child, and it turned out to be twins, then I couldn't very well send one back!" So my parents adopted my twin sister and me, and my mom was thrilled to have two tiny baby girls. If the adoptive couple feels like twins would be too much of a burden (as the mother of a singleton toddler, I wouldn't blame them!), then they simply aren't the right couple for this adoption opportunity. They should wait for a singleton.

Also, I have always considered being kept with my twin to be one of the luckiest event of my life.. We easily could have been split, and that thought sends chills of horror through me.

OK, maybe I'm being a drama queen, but that's my take on it.

LC

[niece]

I think that TWINS should stay together! Heck I think that all siblings should stay together. Best of Luck to ya

[terri34608]

If it is your choice to place them with an Adoptive couple. PLEASE don't seperate them.

There are twins in our family also. Even though they still argue like most siblings do.

They miss each other immensly when the other twin is not around.


If we were offered to Adopt a baby that is a twin, We would have to pass on the opportunity.
I feel there is way to much of a bond that twins share and may effect their emotions growing up.

Knowing something is missing and can't figure out what.

[SammyBmom]

My twins were born Dec 12,1994, a boy and a girl. Their family was excited about the possibility of raising twins, and I am so glad that they are together, I would not have done it any other way.

[Coley]

I so agree with the vast majority of the replies..... keep those babies together!! I know several bmoms who placed twins and they were placed together. As a bmom, I can not imagine dealing with 2 sets of rules, updates, pics, etc.... I think it would be easier to deal with just one family. And having heard adult twins talk, there is always some connection there between them. So, I think they should stay together!!!

Best of luck to ya sweetie!!

Coley

[dcgirl414]

Never separate twins! Ever since I found out that my grandmother had a twin brother, I always wanted to have twins! People have always told me I'm crazy to want that! I've just always been fasinated with twins! Anytime a talk show would be about twins, I'd have to watch it! They are incredible blessings!

I have 2 bio children, 19 year old son and 16 year old daughter, and unable to have any more. We have just recently gotten our license to do foster care. My hope and prayer would be to foster to adopt. Wouldn't it be WILD if twins were placed with us?! If it happens, I'd know that my grandma up in heaven would have had something to do with it! She knew I wanted to have twins!

Take care & God bless

DeAnn

[Kellster]

With so many families waiting to add to their families through adoption and who would be doubly thrilled to have two babies, I cannot think of any reason that would justify separating twins.

kelly

[jaimemarie]

I know that adoptive parents can specify if they are willing to adopt twins or not. Through the adoption agency that my husband and I are going through while trying to adopt, we checked off that we would be willing to adopt twins. I think it's probably not uncommon.

Since I'm sure that there are a lot of adoptive families that would be very happy to take twins, separating them would probably not be necessary.

I have, however, not heard any specific stories of twins being adopted.

[lemonchutney]

I suspect that this used to be much more of an issue back when the supply/demand for adoptable babies was skewed in the opposite direction from where it's at now. Keeping that in mind, I think it's currently more of an issue for older adoptable children and adoptable children with special needs.

LC