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Originally Posted By moderator

I have just received an e-mail from the WOULD-HAVE-BEEN adoptive parents of Courtney's baby. Come to find out, this WAS indeed a SCAM!!! See the message below:

"I've talked with you several times and asked you to remove postings for Courtney as well. But, unfortunately I have personally met with her, she looked pregnant which she was claiming she wasn't due until August so, I didn't think that much about it. She had ask us to adopt her daughter and I was suppose to go to the doctor with her on the 30th of this month. Well, she called me this morning and things just seemed weird. So, I called to confirm the doctors appointment and come to find out she hadn't been there in a year that it was time for her yearly check-up. I have bought everything for the nursery preparing for our new daughter. I've contacted an Attorney in which, Courtney was going to go on the 30th there with me as well. I guess on the 30th she would have been sick or something to get out of things. Who knows???? But, Courtney is not pregnant, I meet with her mother even today and talked with her. I spoke with the one she was claiming to be the birthfather and he had told me that she wasn't pregnant she was only jerking me around. So, I'm really sorry that all the postings about Courtney being a SCAM have been erased, because she is out to hurt people just as she has my family. I'm sorry that I asked you to erase them, I really am. Please post that she is a scam. I can give you her mom's name and number to where you can even contact her to prove she is a scam. If you wish to have them just contact me."

If you have questions, please contact me (the moderator) at comments@adoption.com. Thanks!

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Originally Posted By me too

I have been talking to her too. I have not met with her yet but she did send me an ultra sound picture. Who is she and why is she doing this? I thought it seed funny awhile back and then things seemed ok. I will also contact the moderator. Thanks

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The best thing I think that anyone who is currently contacting Courtney should do is this: have your social worker or adoption professional contact her or another adoption professional in the area so that you can all meet together. I have no way of telling if she is actually pregnant or not, but obviously there needs to be some more researching on what the actual situation is here. Please, PLEASE do your homework so that no one else has to go through the heartache that others have apparently already suffered.
~the moderator (comments@adoption.com)

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Originally Posted By Vicki C

I would like to talk to the moderator that posted Courtney is a scam on the selecting parents/birthparents site. I too have been talking to her for a friend for quite awhile now and she is contacting my friends today. I would like to know what is going on to save these people heartache. What does her mother say? I have an ultra sound that she emailed me. Please contact me at vickisc@aol.com
Thanks, Vicki C

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Originally Posted By a mom

I have talked to Courtneys Mom and she asked me to pass this along...Courtney is not pregnant! She was adopted herself and she feels that she is having some problems with adoption not uncommon in the teenage years. She had no idea this was going on but it will be stopped. This is a lesson for all of us! Be very careful when communicating over the internet. You never know who you are dealing with. The internet can be a good place but it can also be filled with scams and cause alot of heartache as several people posting on here found out. Good luck to those on a search...use caution.

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The internet can be dangerous, however so can classifed ads, and other means of locating a potential birthmother independently. Much of this heartache would be spared if adoptive parents used caution in ANY situation( I comment only for the aparent side because in this case that is who has been hurt). Our family "matched" with a potential birthmother via the internet, but immediately after we were contacted we referred her to our attorney. He then set up a meeting within one week of the contact, to verify pregnancy and her intentions. Any connection can be a good one, if it is handled properly and cautiously. My heart breaks for those of you who have been hurt.

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Originally Posted By adoptee

how very sad for Courtney to be so devastated by her own adoption that she needs to reinact her own birthmom's pregnancy to try and make sense of it all.Alot of adoptee females are tortured during the teenage years over their relinquishment and in fact many become pregnant and place in higher than average numbers.I hope that everyone involved will be okay,including potential adoptive parents.I thought it was illegal to correspond with a "minor" anyways over an legal issue such as adopting her child.I would be afraid that I would be prosecuted.The internet law is so "iffy".

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You are right...it is very sad for Courtney! I don't know what the laws are when dealing with a minor. They may be different once a girl/woman is pregnant. When adopting we all know or will know what an emotional rollercoaster we're on. Birthparents as well as adopting parents need to be careful. In this case everyone got hurt; even the people just writing and trying to lend support. There were women corresponding that were not looking to adopt but just being a friend. I was one of those women and I can tell you I will think twice before I do it again. What possible reason could a young girl have for commiting such a scam except attention. She may have a problem with her own adoption but that is not a reason to hurt other people.

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Originally Posted By a mom

I know a family that had a 17 1/2 years old claiming to be pregnant and wasn't as well. The law stated that she was old enough to make her own decisions without her parent's and it wasn't against the law for someone to talk to her either. What is against the law is when a 17 1/2 year old pretends to be pregnant and legal issues could be taken by the potential adoptive parents if they wanted to persue the issue. The one family persued the issue and the 17 1/2 year olds "parents" HAD TO REPAY them for "everything" they paid for up unto that point and so much for the Mental Anguish that was caused!!! So, just be careful messing with young so called adults to begin with. But, the ones who was suppose to adopt Courtney's baby, I would check with my attorney and break her from hurting others. Courtney has to be one cruel person to fake a pregnancy and try to get adoptive parent's. She really needs medical attention. If it was me I would have my attorney persue the issue if for anything just to teach her a lesson.

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Originally Posted By A FRIEND

Hello, I just want to let everyone know that deep down inside Courtney is a really sweet person. Courtney is a very smart young lady as well. I know Courtney personally and yes I'm hurt from this as well but why should everyone get on here and slam her this way? Courtney will soon be a Parent one day and hopefully she'll remember this experience and pain she has caused several people and families. Only, then will she ever understand the pain that this has caused for some of us.

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Originally Posted By adoptee

hi friend to Courtney!I know her well enough to know that it was not with malice,but because of her own issues with adoption.I hope that some of these hostile adoptive parents will be able to deal with their own adopted child's issues as they become teens.I think the world is finally beginning to realize that being adopted has a longlasting profound effect on us.Why wouldn't it?Our own mother's did not keep us and no matter how a child rolls that thought around in their mind,it is still rejection.I hope that all mothers will do open adoptions and explain what happened to their children.

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Originally Posted By another friend

Just because someone has issues with their own adoption does not give them the right to play with other peoples feelings and emotions. You need to understand that all women that get pregnant do not or will not parent for whatever reason. I would venture to say that many of us are far better off being adopted. I know it's a hard pill to swallow to think that your birthparent gave you up but maybe be a little thankful. As far as Courtney, yes she is smart and she knew exactly what she was doing. All scammers do!

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Originally Posted By a mom

I personally would like to see her get on these boards she was on preying on and apologize. I do hope her parents hold her accountable for heractions. She hurt a lot of people. What she did was wrong and she knew it. I don't care if someday she will be a parent. She needs to know know what she did was VERY WRong.A lot of people went out of their way to help her. I was lucky. I contacted her once or twice to be a freind and something did not feel right. She continued to contact me and talk after a while it dwindled and I lost touch with her. Tuesday we brought home our new son.

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Originally Posted By adoptive mom

for the person that just brought home a son,did you become a friend and then drop her because you were not going to adopt her baby?Because that is not being a friend-that is looking out for yourself.You are a grown woman,Courtney is not.Someday your adopted son(if his real mom does not take him back) will grow up and do things you don't approve of.What will you do-blame biology??Will you give him back because he is not cute anymore or because you can't control his psychological fallout from being adopted?Sorry,but I will be prepared for any hurt my son has from being adopted and I will not be vindictive against a girl who everyone PRETENDED to care for so very much-as long as she GAVE THEM her baby.Now listen to you people wanting her prosecuted when you were so quick to try and swiftly talk her out of her own child.Guess the little adopted baby that she was when her parents took her home,doesn't seem so cute anymore.I bet her real mom would be more than happy to welcome her home.

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Originally Posted By I was 17 when I got pregnant

If Courtney truly is a scam I am very saddened and offended. Because I was 17 when I got pregnant. And it would be horrible for her to create such a distrust among teenagers who are pregnant and considering adoption, and hopeful acouples. Maybe Courtney is trying to find out how her birthmother felt by placing her. But all she had to do was ask some birthmothers questions on how they felt placing their children. Not pretend she was pregnant to get answers. But it sounds like there are some deeper issues here. And it seems to me that she needs some intensive counseling. I hope my daughter does not do this when she is a teenager. I hope my openess with her will help her to understand that she was loved and wanted by me. And Courtney was probably loved and wanted too. Even if her adoption is closed it was most likely not by her birthmother's choice. I hope her mother gets her help before she causes more trouble.