[blondiess4u]

This is a little embarrassing to talk about, because I know I am int he wrong, but I need serious help in making the right decision.
I am married and recently cheated on my husband. I have always wanted a baby, and he will not give me one so I had unsafe sex andgot pregnant the first time.I am only 5 weeks right now. I cant tell my husband right now because I dont know what Im gonna do, Im not sure if I even want to be with him, but I dont have any family and I need him.. I told the birthfather about it and he was shocked. We thought about getting to know each other more and maybe working something out but he said I cant be trusted for what I do to my huisband, he thinks I'll do it to him, so he wants me to get an abotion. We still see each other sometimes, and I really like him, but Im not gonna force him to be with me, but I really really want this baby and I know I would make a great mom with the right support. I absolutly can not do it alone for finacial reasons. I dont ever imagine giving it up for adoption either, that would be worse and I would never forgive myself. I have already been through 2 abortions and now cant get myself to do it again, but I want to do whats best for me and whats best for the baby. What do I do???? I need good honest options here!Thank You!

[Sun8]

OH gosh! My first thought is.. are u absoloutely positive it is not your husbands child?

[SchmennaLeigh]

You need to be honest with your Husband and make decisions from there.

Best of luck.

[taramayrn]

I would agree with Jenna. You need to be honest with your husband and based on his reaction then you can make your decision.

[josh1788smom]

I second Sun's question? Are you sure it is not your husband's child?

I think you need to know that and stop seeing this other man, and not necessarily in that order.

And I just have to ask - why, if you don't want to be with your husband, do you think it is his responsibility to take care of you and a child, that may not be his. You clearly knew the risks of being with this other man. Maybe you would make a great mother, but he doesn't have to help facilitate this. There are resources to assist you - deceiving him is not fair to anyone.

[terilynnh2000]

I agree with the others, honesty is the best policy here. With any luck, your husband will come around. More importantly though, your baby needs you to be strong and mentally healthy! It sounds like you have made the decision to parent, so move forward and take excellent care of yourself! Good Luck!

[Mommy24]

Blondiess4u~ Welcome to the forums. As one of the moderators here at Adoption.com I want you to know that we strive to make this a safe place for you to come and seek support and get your questions answered, however we do NOT allow potential aparents to solicit you asking for your baby. If you receive any PM's asking for your baby please forward them to a moderator or Admin. Thank you and if I can assist you here on the forums please do not hesitate to PM me.

Best of Luck!!