[alohajoy]

im 4mo. pregnant, have two other kids, and just got divorced, not my ex's baby, ive no clue whose the dad, and i cant get a job...my ex could ask for custody of my sons at anytime if he found out im pregnant and not able to provide for another...my question is this...does anyone know what the laws in oklahoma say about whom i have to tell about the adoption? Like in texas i have to tell every possible father by lawyer, and my ex husband..even though not a option, it was conceived during divorce proceedings...also in texas birhtfather has to wait till child born to sign over rites..oklahoma he can do it before its born...my main concern is having to tell my ex before its born...please anyone know or any good law sites...i havent found too many on this issue..

[SchmennaLeigh]

Oklahoma:

Who Must Consent to an Adoption
Citation: Title 10, § 7503-2.1

• Both parents
• One parent if the other is deceased, has had rights terminated, or whose consent is not required
• A legal guardian
• The head of a child-placing agency to the whom the child has been relinquished
• Any person having legal custody
• The parents or guardian of a minor parent under age 16 years

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When Consent Can Be Executed
Citation: Title 10, §§ 7503-2.2; 7503-2.3

• The parent may not execute consent until after the child's birth.
• A putative father may consent before or after the child's birth.
• A permanent relinquishment may be executed any time after the child's birth, after court authorization, but it must be in writing and include a statement of irrevocability.

How Consent Must Be Executed
Citation: Title 10, §§ 7503-2.3; 7503-2.6

• Parents may relinquish to the department, an agency, or another person.
• Consent must be in writing and executed before a judge.
• Consent must state that it was executed voluntarily and unequivocally.
• A putative father may make an extra-judicial consent.

[bromanchik]

I think it is important to note that many states consider any child conceived in marriage to be the legal child of both the husband and wife. If your child was conceived before the divorce was final you may need to get his consent as well. You need to find a lawyer in OK.

[EmmaLeigh2882]

Sending you some virtual support! Its a rough time for you, and will be even rougher for a while... But you can do it!

[hope2bmommyagain]

You need to get in touch with a good adoption lawyer that is familiar with adoption law in the states of Oklahoma and Texas. Don't go by information you read on the internet, because it may be outdated. Adoption laws do evolve and change.

Good luck to you-I hope everything works out for the best!

Joanne

[moonbeam23]

Originally Posted by bromanchik

I think it is important to note that many states consider any child conceived in marriage to be the legal child of both the husband and wife. If your child was conceived before the divorce was final you may need to get his consent as well. You need to find a lawyer in OK.

This was the case in my son's adoption, bmom's husband had to sign even though he was not the father and they were separated. It held up the finalization, not because he didn't want to sign, but because he didn't have transportation downtown, and we weren't allowed to provide it for him. He finally did it though. This was in CA in 1998, so I don't know if it applies to your situation. Good luck to you.

[whimmel]

I'll keep you in my prayers. Think beyond the current situation to make your decision. Giving up a child brings with it years of tears and even regret. Do it out of love not fear, it will be easier to live with.