[numbr1dbcksfan]

Who did you tell first about your pregnancy? What was their reaction? Were they helpful? Supportive? If you had to do it again... would you choose the same person?

[Tigger27]

I put other because the first time, I told my parents then the guy and the second time I told the guy and then my parents.

I would have told the same people the first time, but the second time I wish I would have told my parents before the guy since he was a problem.

[SchmennaLeigh]

I said the father even though I told a very close friend of my suspicion (that I was pregnant) before I took the test. However, once I had the positive result, I told the father and THEN the friend.

Yes. Memories.

[BoxerLady6]

I told a friend. In fact he USED to be the best friend of bdad. Amazing how that changed and HE became my best friend after bdad was a jerk to me. He was actually the one who told bdad for me.
I wouldn't change it for anything and would do it over again the same. My friend was the 1st person I told, as a result we became very close during my pregnancy.......he was a big influence in my life. We stayed close for many years after. He made some mistakes and I had to cut him out of my life....still miss him.

[MommaKatja]

Before the test I discussed my fear with a couple of friends and one walked with me to get the test but after i knew for sure I told my big sister first, she thought i was lying but then she offered to take me to the doctor for a blood test and took my little sister out of the house so i could tell my parents in peace. I love my big sister

[Montraviatommyg]

I told my parents but wish I had told a friend first instead as I think I would have had more support.

Pip

[numbr1dbcksfan]

I told a friend first. Actually that is the case with both Aurora and Kristin.

Ironicly, Kristin's biodad is the friend I told first about Aurora.

I actually hadnt thought about that for a while... thank you me for making me think about it.

HAHHHAA!

[teaspoon]

I told my coworkers two days after I found out I was pregnant. I didn't realize (or maybe admit?) I was pregnant until I was extremely far along. I knew I couldn't parent and I knew my family was going to have a hard time with adoption. So I went to work two days after I found out I was pregnant and told my supervisor that I needed him to call a staff meeting because I had something to tell everyone and I only wanted to say it once. So he called the meeting and I told everyone that I was pregnant and that my husband and I had decided to look for adpotive parents for our child. People were stunned, but extrememly supportive. One coworker gave me the name and number of the couple who ended up being my daughter's aparents. My coworkers were my support net through the rest of my pregnancy and the early months after the adoption. I don't know what I would have done without them.

[tigger636715]

The reaction of my friend was pure understanding and compassion. She stuck by me for the entire time except for the one month I was away to give birth and place my son. She was even there when I signed the final papers.

I would never have done it any different, and 21 years later, I sent her a picture of my son....she was thrilled!! We've been great friends for almost 30 years!!! I wouldn't have chosen anyone else!!

Cheryl

[kakuehl]

Hmm. Cheryl... that makes me think: I should send a picture of my now 33 yr old birth son to the friend who drove me to sign the relinquishment papers.

I told my mom (or should I say admitted it to her) first. I was about 7 months pregnant and hadn't told anyone!
Kathy

[tigger636715]

When she received the pictures, all she could keep saying was "he looks JUST like you!!"...and how glad she was that we had made contact.

It was a good feeling to be able to share with her....who knows?..your friend may just love the update....

Have a great weekend!!

Cheryl

[vera19]

I told the father first...and yes he was extremley supportive.. Now i am expecting again.choosing to parent .(with the same father).i told him first again.and he's right along my side with me