[lilmomma_trin]

I posted this under the unplaned pregnancy page and then I saw this page and decided that it might get more responces here.

HI my name is Trinity. I am 15 years old. I have a 19 month old daughter (Jessica Cole Smith). And I am 15 weeks pregnant (not sure boy or girl). Jessica's daddy left before she was born. And my boyfriend now (father of this baby) says that I should give this baby up for adoption because he cant aford another kid (he already has a 3yr old and a 1 yr old). Everyone (my mom, all my friends, my boyfriend, all of my family) they are all telling me to give this baby up for adoption. I just dont know what to do. I love Jessica so much but she is a handfull and I am not sure if I can handle 2 kids all by myself. My mom is a doctor so she is practacally never around to help me. I go to a teen mom school, so that helps me because I dont have to pay for a sitter, but my mom said that after I turn 16 and the baby is born then I need to get a job. I dont know what I am going to do. Please help I am willing to explore my options except for abortion. I just need some help. Thanks
~~~Trinity~Jessica~and Baby~~~

[deb035]

Trinity,
I think you are very brave and courageous considering what you are going through now. You really need to think about what is best for your child. I'm sure you want your child to have the best that life can give. If you feel you can provide that then there's your answer. If you don't feel you can provide him/her everything that you want to then there's your answer. You have to put your unborn child's needs first. This doesn't mean that you don't love him/her because you obviously do very much. Do the right thing.

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[SchmennaLeigh]

Research all of your options. The information is at your fingertips. I don't know what state you live in, but all you need to do is look up the assistance that is available in your state for young mothers. There is medical insurance for you, food assistance, cash assistance, day care assistance, job training, and so on. It's all there. And then, once you know everything, and I mean everything that is available, then you begin researching adoption. Don't let either side (pro-parenting or pro-adoption) sway you until you are equipped with all the information.

Doing what is best for your child means making a fully informed decision.

Best of luck.

[TeriJ]

I was in your position almost 18 years ago. I was 15 pregnant and alone. My parents were not supportive at all in fact my mom wanted me to get an abortion at 5 months along. I released my daughter for adoption after spending 3 days with her in the hospital. She was the most beautiful baby....they even called her "doll baby" while she was in the hospital. Releasing her for adoption was the hardest thing for me and the best thing for her. I am very proud of what I did. Adoption is extremely hard to do but if you think about dont you want what is best for eveyone. I wish you the very best and hope you make the right decision that is best for all. Hang in there!!