[dogncatkids]

This question is for someone considering placing their child up for adoption. I have been told by a number of individuals that a single parent is not what birthparents are looking to place their child with. I am curious as to why? If I as a single person have a great support network - why not select me?

[numbr1dbcksfan]

This question is asked a lot! The most common answer that I have seen is because if a birthmom wanted their child to only have one parent, they would have just raised their child. (That would be my reason for not choosing a single parent, too). Most birthmothers are looking for a loving two parent home that they arent able to give the child...

Im sure others will ring in, too!! (And Im sure you will get some support from some single adoptive parents!!! Each birthmother is different and there ARE someout there who dont mind a single mom -- IT all depends on the match!)

Good Luck!

Christine

[Coley]

I agree with what Christine said - I wanted my child to have a mom and a dad. I could already provide him a mom - but I couldn't provide him a dad. I also think that boys need a positive male influence growing up and I wanted my son to have that..... Not to say that there were not others that could have been good role models for my son, such as my Dad or brother - but I just think a boy needs a dad.

I think its up to the individual tho - there are some pbmoms and bmoms who think placing with a single mom is ok, its just a personal opinon.

Good luck!

Coley

[BrandyHagz]

At the time of my daughter’s placement, I was already a single mom, and I was totally open to a single male or female parenting her, but was never presented with that opportunity.

Every birthmother has their own idea of what they want. Is it likely to be a longer wait for a domestic placement? Maybe…I think if you got your name out there, did some networking on your own, and set up a profile on line you would have no problem finding a match.

[emiliesfirstmom]

I've heard of birthmoms saying they were raised by a single mom and felt okay with placing their baby with a single mom, but for me, it was not an option. I wanted my child to have two parents.

Of course, you never know - a birthmom might be flipping through Dear Birthmother letters and a single mom might catch her eye because there's something about that woman in particular.

I would certainly include mention of your strong support network, close family, etc. in your conversations with birthmoms.