Angel' Please, I am only going to ask one thing of you today....PLEEEEZE disregard any post that is suggesting you should do one thing or another...whether one is suggesting that you place, or any thing else. They may be working their own agenda.

You are newly pregnant and are not at a place to make many decisions right now. Lots is happening both phyically and emotionally. The people you should be talking to are your family(any suport there?), the father of the baby(many men think abortion iss convient) and your self. Your self first.

The first thing you should do is get yourself to a doctor...start vitamins,folic acid ect. Keep your self healthy. Set priorities...what is the most important give to think about at any given moment. Everything else will fall into place.

Get help from trusted impartial people. they aare some people that may be able to help you. Bromichek(SP)...is a good source to help you...also some other birthmoms may be able to help you get through some of this confusion

Please remember...some people will "advise" based upon their own belief systems....be aware.

Donna

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I echo what Missy M and dpen 6 have posted. You need people you know and trust to help you do your own soul searching to decide what is the best decision for you and your baby. Is there a counselor at your school that you can talk to?

Some will post inflamatory and IMO exaggerated stories to further their own agenda. Please don't let anyone tell you what your decision "should be" or influence you by creating horror in your mind.

I'm sorry you're in this difficult situation ~ take care.

[AnGeL_UK]

Originally posted by alexa62
There are other reasons to give birth. Repeated abortion can make it difficult to carry a baby to full term. Giving birth when young can also protect against breast cancer and make future pregnancies easier. It is very hard to give up your child, but in essence when you have an abortion you are giving up your child too. I have done both and while abortion was the easiest option it wasn't the most satisfying. And while you may think that going to school and raising a child seems impossible, many women are doing just that. It's also a plus to have raised your children when you are young and have them out of your house and on their own when you are in your 40's and still young enough to enjoy life and your retirement, and be young enough to see your grandchildren for a long time. You have many options.

To be honest I think you're a little out of order trying to force your oppinions on me like that. I don't like someone trying to scare me into makeing a chocie either way to be honest.

[AnGeL_UK]

I jsut wanted to post to say thank you so mcuh for all the advise. I was very scared and confused when i first posted on here.

I thought very long and very hard about my situation and my options and in the end i decided to go ahed with a termination. I would not have been able to carry on with my college owrk to a high standard if i was pregnant. I would not have been able to give a child the right sort of life at the point i am in my life - i can't even drive yet and my mum still has to bring me food once a week so i would never cope with a baby!

Me and my boyfreind are also completely not ready for this step - we've nly been together for 3 months and both have things we need to do with our lives vefore settleing down.

I did a lot of reseach and i am fully confident that at the early stage i was the foetus was not yet a conciuos human being, and while under other circumstances i would love nothing more than to become a mum and settle down now just was not the right time.

1 week on from the termination I feel ok and have had no complications. I do find my self pondering what if everynow and again - but i am confident i have made the right chocie for my life.

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