[BrandyHagz]

There is another thread on this topic - but I wanted to create a second, because I want to make sure my message is read:

I am creating this thread because again we are seeing an increase in the "ADOPTION IS NEVER A GOOD OPTION" posts and private messages.

Sharing your experience is one thing - telling someone else they will live to regret their decision is quite another.

This is a PRO-ADOPTION website - which means it's not for everyone. If you don't support adoption as a viable option for women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, then maybe this isn't the site for you.

Coercion exists on both sides of the fence and recently the adoption naysayers are using our forums (and our Private Messaging system) as a tool to make women who are seeking information feel guilty about choosing a viable option that is available to them.

In unplanned pregnancy – there are THREE choices a woman must make. Once she has decided to continue her pregnancy to term, she has two left – those choices are parenting and adoption. Scaring women into making either decision is wrong and uncalled for.

Asking legitimate “Have you considered parenting? Why did you decide parenting wasn’t an option for you” type questions are totally in line with supporting a woman making a choice – telling a woman that she’ll be crippled with debilitating depression, her child will grow up to hate/resent her or worse, become some kind of axe murderer, if he isn’t killed by his adoptive parents first – is absolutely OUT OF LINE and will NOT be tolerated any longer.

Adoption is and will always be a very controversial topic that commands respectful interaction between sides that often don’t see eye to eye – but I am here to tell you – Adoption.com is no longer a viable battleground in which you can wage the war between “Us & Them”.

If you'd like to reply to this thread, you are welcome to do so - however, our stance on this issue is NOT up for debate.

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I am editing this post on 7/7/9 to add:
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In addition to the increased number of posts targeting women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy, we are also seeing a large number of anti-adoption posts from adopted adults on the forums. We have always encouraged our members to share their thoughts and feelings, as they relate to their own story - however, more and more, we are seeing posts that promote a strong 'adoption abolition' message.

Also, we are seeing an increase in the number of 'attacking posts' targeted to people who don't share opinions on a specific topic. These forums are here to foster discussion among the various sides of the triad - however, the expectation should be that respectful disagreement will happen and when it does, it is not necessary to continue to attempt to 'sway' the other side. This forum is unique in its ability to offer varying sides and varying stories with a strong sense of respect for each other, regardless of our opinions.

We really DO want to encourage our users to keep sharing their stories - however, keep in mind, the "Anti-Adoption" message is not welcome here and a pushed anti-adoption agenda can lead to moderator action.

[BrandyHagz]

Bumping for the morning folks who may have missed it.

[Mommy24]

Bumping as a reminder

[DPline]

Another bump

[crick]

Bump.....please bump again later this afternoon. Thanks!

[CaddoRose]

Another bumpity bump.

[BrandyHagz]

Bumping because again, this has become an issue.

Adoption.com is Pro-Adoption - we support women being fully informed of their options and encourage users to support women investigating their options - beyond that (posts like "Adoption is bad!") we draw the line.

[BrandyHagz]

Listen folks - I know we all have opinions and we may or may not be happy with our personal experiences etc - however ADOPTION.COM is NOT the venue in which you can promote an anti-adoption agenda.

It's just NOT going to happen.

[crick]

Monthly reminder...

[EZ2Luv]

continuing to remind

EZ

[MamaS]

Agree. BUMPING.
WOw, my first bump.

[BrandyHagz]

I am going to bump this up.

I am seeing a HUGE increase in the number of posts which are clearly anti-adoption.

As we've said, Adoption.com is PRO-ADOPTION and as such, we can and will remove the posts which aren't appropriate for this venue.

Adoption.com is a SAFE place for people who are touched by adoption to come and share their thoughts, feelings and stories without being attacked, ridiculed, degraded and made to feel like they’ve done something wrong, simply because they have a positive view of adoption.

Because this negative attitude seems to have permeated all corners of the forums, you leave us no choice but to take drastic measures, up to and including restricting access to certain forums and banning of accounts.

I will state again, Adoption.com is a PRO-ADOPTION website. Attacking, ridiculing, degrading, demoralizing and denouncing others in support of an anti-adoption agenda is not only not unappreciated, it is NOT allowed.

This has gone WELL beyond the typical sharing of personal feelings and has started to make a great number of our users feel uncomfortable.

If you have a question, feel free to send me a private message. Posts made to this thread debating this message will be deleted.

Those who are disregarding the purpose of this forum have really left us no choice – we’ve tried hard to allow for all sides and all opinions to share in a respectful manner – and that’s just not happening.

[BrandyHagz]

Bumping this up for the evening crowd. Again, I am happy to reply to respectful questions via Private Message - so feel free to send them if you have them.

I have edited the original post to include additional information. Please reread.