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Originally Posted By Jessica and Steven

Hi, all!

Well, the prayers are working! We had a wonderful meeting with the man who did the most recent assesment on the boys, and he was very pleased with us and the resources we ave to offer the 4-year old who he is very concerned with placing as soon as possble. Apparently, the frster mother where the boys are right now doesn't like very young children, and isn't fond of Justin at all. Of course, Justin has picked up on that, and is miserable there. God, I just want to hold him and love him and make everything better. I can't wait until he is here. Anyway, this man's recommendation is that within the next few days Justin start transitioning to our home, so that he can be with his little brother and a family who loves him.
The progress on Kyle...well, we found out through firstmom's lawyer that she has been ignoring the restraining order, ,and now the DSS knows it. So, we are setting up an adoption agreement as we speak because the minute Kyle shows up back at the grandmother's house (firstmom is living with her, another fact we didn't know) DSS will take him into custody. Since nobody wants that to happen, and since she is ready now, papers are being signed on Monday or Tuesday and Kyle will be HOME FOR GOOD!!! We're praying that Justin will be too.
I wanted to ask you birthmothers how this agreement sounds to you: visits of 3-4hours and updates once a month, on the condition that she does not bring her mother with her. The visits must also be in a public place, in case she is followed. I hate to do it this way, but With what I've heard about her mother I don't want her anywhere around us or the boys. We will also send her a phone card for calls once a month to set up the visit. We also put in the agreement that the child cannot be forced to go to the visit, and that if she brings her mother that visit is cancelled. What do you ladies think of this agreement? Let me know.

We'll keep you updated!
With love,
Jessica and Steven

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Hmmmm. I don't know too much about the situation, but from what I gathered this sounds like a good thing! I mean, in any open adoption - visits every month is great! (Was it a visit every month - or just an update?)

You have to protect your child and yourselves from her Mother - it is great you are still reaching out to the bMom. I mean, I am sure so many would cut off contact with the bMom too "Throw the baby out with the bath water". (Man! I am using the sayings my Mom used! I must be getting old -lol)

So - how's it going?

Skye

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Originally Posted By Courtney

Jessica ~

I will never truly know the journey you and Steven have been on these last long months, especially considering the difficult situation. I won't even begin to assume that I understand or that I could faintly offer any thoughts on what is right, or wrong, or anything in between.

I am simply blessed to have been able to watch, from your heartfelt words, a woman who has not given up in the face of adversity and who has endured heavy battle storms from all directions ... I am proud to know you and overjoyed that these boys are entering into a family who is so obviously loyal to the matters of the heart.

You are what is known as a "Faith Walker" and God will bless your worn and rugged soles. Follow that Jessica ... and follow your heart. If you feel that this relationship between the birth mother, yourself and Steven, and the children is necessary and are committed to making it work, then truly it is not in the details by minutes and places - but rather what God has in store by His Promise that says, "For I know the plans I have for you .... Plans to prosper you and not to harm you ... plans to give you hope and a future ..." (jeremiah 29:11)

You have walked so far and by such amazing faith ... God will not abandon you now ... but rather - girl ... He's just begun.

All my Love and JOYFUL praise!
Courtney

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Originally Posted By Jessica and Steven

Hi, Skye!

Thank you for your thoughts. I really want to make sure that the firstmom doesn't feel left out in the cold, because whatever else has gone on she is the boys firstmom and she has a special relationship with them. I hate having to put restrictions on visitation, but I am afraid that her mother will folllow her, or she will tell her mother where we live and then we will have major problems. Outside of the adoption, everything is going well. I am back to work 2 days a week after tearing my rotator cuff in April. Fortunately, Steven is home the hours that I work, so no problems with childcare! Actually, Steven and Kyle enjoy special time together then, just like I do when Steven is at work lol.

How are things with you?

With love,
Jessica and Steven

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Originally Posted By Jessica and Steven

Courtney,

Thank you for your beautiful post. You have a wonderful, caring soul and it shows in every word you say.
It has been a long and very, very hard journey...but hopefully we're at the finish line! I just want to make sure that the firstmom doesn't feel left behind or left out, because whatever has gone on, she has a special relationship with the boys that should be acknowledged and encouraged for everyone's sake. I hate putting restrictions on visitation, but we are so worried that she will bring her mother or her mother will follow her - and I refuse to allow that woman near the boys. I only heard a portion of what went on, but it was enough to make my blood boil.

Well, here's praying that it will turn right quickly!

With love and prayers,
Jessica

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Hello,

I am glad things are going well for you! I am doing just fine and dandy. Isaiah was sick, but is feeling much better - Nothing is more stressful than a sick baby!

School is great - I love it! My classes are cool - I am striving to get all A's and B's this sememster.

Yes, you have to protect your family first - like I said before, it is so cool you still choose to allow the bMom to have visits.

Alright, baby's crying...talk soon

Skye

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Originally Posted By Jessica and Steven

that things are going well for you, Skye! You're right, there's nothing more stressful than a sick baby - unless they are teething! lol Fortunately, Kyle has been wonderfully sweet tempered (well, most of the time) even with teething. We got very lucky to have such a sweet boy come into our lives, and I'm sure his brother is the same way. :-))) I'm sure you feel the same about Isaiah and Emily (I hope I got her name right - even though he didn't cry, Kyle was awake with teething pain last night and told me all kinds of funny stories for hours lol).

Talk to you soon!

Love,
Jessica and Steven