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Hi I'm new here, but I need help.

To make a long story short. I feel my family was wrongly done by Social Services. I am the Aunt of three beautiful kids. what it is, is my sister lost her kids. She's mad at my mother and I because so many of the welfare reports were from us. We have only been trying to teach and help her raise her children for the last five years. Her children ended up in foster care after I left home and started college (and this isn't helping my GPA any eighter). This is the second time in the last year.

This last time my niece got beat by the baby sitter. Social Services took them and place them in foster care. They haven't arrested the SOB that beat her eighter. I hired a laywer to represent the kids and their rights as well as mine and my mothers.

"""Since my sister is mad at us for her childish reasons, and because I had been sexually abused when I was a child by my father (which is not my sister's father) and because I seek mental health services when I need to. And because raising three children is a hard job for a single 25 yr. old"""" is why I am not being considered for the placement of my niece and nephews. Now since my sister has terminated her parential rights as well as the fathers the children are being place for adoption. I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE THEM, I have invested too many years, tears, heart ace, and love to lose them now. And I have exhausted my funding for a lawyer for nothing.

Whats a person to do. I'm not allowed to see them, I can't tell them I love them, I can't tell them I tried to get them. All because my sister wants to act like a child and because my mother and I love the kids more than she does.

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Hi, when we adopted through social services, we were told that all relatives are considered before a non-relative placement is considered. We were also told that the birth family lost their rights when the birth parents terminated their authority. In our second adoption, the kid's adoption social worker actively sought out families that were willing to have openess in the adoption. We are also now involved in mediation to develop a written agreement that lays out who, when and where visitation and phone calls will occur. It is not legally binding but gives a framework for clear expectations, boundaries and an ongoing relationship.

Have you talked to your niece and nephew's social worker? They should at least do a homestudy on you or your Mom if you want to parent them. If that would not work, you can ask for mediation. Most people these days acknowledge the value of past positive relationships for adopted children. Contact with their birth family is usually seen as the preferred situation. Good luck and prayers. Dianna