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Originally Posted By Robin

Thank you Skye for a great article about what NOT to say to Birthmothers. I thought it was very insightful. I am a prospective adoptive parent (we're currently waiting to be "chosen") and it's enlightening to hear from birthmothers like yourself about your feelings, etc. I don't know what it's like to be a birthmother and not much has been written (from what I have read on other boards) about birthmothers and what to say to them about their children, adoption, etc. Thanks for sharing. I, too, like to educate others and it's hard to educate unless you have all facts so it's great to get different perspectives.

Thanks again,
Robin

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Thank you so much for your list of things not to say to a birthmom. We are just waiting to be "chosen" just like the previous message and I found your comments very helpful. We truly care about our future birthmom and wouldn't dream of causing her any more pain by saying something hurtful. Could you possibly give us some examples of what we could say to her to convey our joy at being given the opportunity to parent her child without denying her feelings? I would appreciate any insight you can share with us. God Bless you for your willingness to share your feelings openly and on a continual basis. Happy holidays to all!!!

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Originally Posted By dramagirl316

Skye..I was in tears reading your 5 things to NOT say to bmoms..thank you so much for putting the time into writing this...from my heart to yours...warm huggs dramagirl316

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Originally Posted By dramagirl316

Exactly what I needed today...to know how to respond to these women as they are going through what may prove to be the hardest time in their lives...from my heart to yours...thank you..drama

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Originally Posted By Michelle

Thank you so much Skye! This is exactly what I was looking for when I asked for some things TO say. I am printing a copy of your article so my dh can read it at his leisure. It will help us keep in mind the positive form of speach that is best to use. Once again thanks!

Michelle

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Opps! I am sorry I did not respond sooner! I was not even aware that my work was mentioned over at this board...I guess I was just sticking to the one I co-moderate.

I guess I need to get around more often!

Thank you for the kind words about my work. It is very encouraging for me to get feedback so I can get an idea of what to write next time.

Hopefully, coming soon..How I personally feel adoption agencies can improve...from a Birthmother's point of view.

Thanks again!

Skye Hardwick

Http://www.hannahschoice.homestead.com/hannah1.html

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Originally Posted By Rebecca O'Bannon

Skye,

I just wanted to say that I truly appreciated both of your
articles. My husband, five sons & I are in the process of
adopting a little girl. We are all looking forward to
sharing her life with any of her birth relatives who would
like to remain connected with "our" (birth relatives and adoptive relatives)little girl.

If each and everyone of us could see around our fears and
insecurities, we would be able to accept that it is a
very small world and we all need to stay connected to be
whole.

Thanks again.
Rebecca

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