[bluebutterfly78]

Hi all,

What is the first thing that you would look for on adoptive parents profiles while making an adoption plan to your child?
Religion, race, financial, appearance, letter, photos....or would you go by that "click" on your heart?

Thanks and much love!

[LLise8153]

I really don't think there is a "right" answer. I think that your e-mom is out there and she will find you! the reason I don't think there is a right answer is because I really think that all e-moms look for different things, based on what is important to them. I've talked to moms and they said I looked for this and I looked for that, but I didn't look for any of those things. I did look at appearance, I wanted a family that little man could "fit" into and people wouldn't automatically say "where did he come from". I looked at pictures, I wanted to see that they looked happy together and didn't "need" a baby to "make" them happy. I looked at length of the marriage, because while I know there are no "absolutes" I wanted a couple that had been married for awhile. I looked at their interests, I wanted a family that liked the beach, because I do, I wanted a family that valued education and loved to read. I looked at animals, because I feel like growing up with animals can help a child learn to be loving and kind to smaller things. I looked for honesty, they said what they meant and meant what they said. I looked for a father that would be active in the kids lives, because I saw how painful it could be when the father wasn't all that interested with my two parented children. Be up front, be yourselves, be honest and I think that you will definitely find the right match for you! Good luck :-)