[taramayrn]

What would you like to say to your child's other mother? Is there one thing you need her to know or would like her to know or hear?

[SchmennaLeigh]

Well this isn't light-hearted Tuesday talk at all!

I don't know what this answer is at this point in time. There's a lot that I'd like to say.

*thinks real hard*

Perhaps that, despite everything that has gone on in the last year, I still love and respect her and know that she is a great mother to the Munchkin.

[thanksgivingmom]

MY lighthearted answer?

RESPOND TO MY EMAIL DANG IT!

My serious answer....I don't know....that takes some thinking that my brain's not quite geared for right this moment....I'll work on it though

[djvj]

i think that what i would most like to be sure she knows in her heart is that next to the relationship i have with my bdaughter, my bond with her is dearest in my heart.

that i truly believe we in no way cancel each other out or are in competition -- in our case two types of mothers are better than one and i hope my presense in my bdaughters life never causes her any pain or doubt about this

and most of all, that i am so grateful to her for the beautiful, compassionate way she raised our child and has treated me thoroughout the years

[RobinKay]

Originally Posted by taramayrn

What would you like to say to your child's other mother? Is there one thing you need her to know or would like her to know or hear?

I need her to knock off the criminal activity, the drug abuse, and not expect to drop in and out of ds's life.

Ours is a relative adoption, BTW.

[Boulderbabe]

I have happy things and sad things I wish I could tell her. Even though we talk, I don't feel like I can be very honest.

I wish I could tell her we're not in competition. I've got her oldest son (removed by DSS), and she's got her two younger daughters. I think that after a very rocky start, she's doing a great job as a mom. She doesn't need to denigrate me to prove she's a good mom---I already think she's doing really well.

I wish I could tell her how proud I am of her for all the positive changes she's making in her life. I know she's still struggling, but she is MILES ahead of where she was when I met her 5 years ago. (I think she would be embarrassed if I said that, so I don't. But I think it.)

[lahdh4]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

Well this isn't light-hearted Tuesday talk at all!

I don't know what this answer is at this point in time. There's a lot that I'd like to say.

yeap. agree with you Jenna.

[taramayrn]

Sorry it was a heavy question - but you can answer it like TGMOM did. I like her funny answer.