[SchmennaLeigh]

Yes, T-Mom, Dawn's posts are amazing and, while hard to read, spot on regarding this topic.

[lahdh4]

Oh I have tried.
Numerous times. Can't.
I am having trouble looking at my own blog at the moment.
Just thinking about this is makes my stomach churn.
I even broke down and got in touch with Biker Boy. Now I know I am not in a good place if I did that.

[RavenSong]

Leigh, I am so sorry this has happened. Sorry and appalled. This is terrible. Sending hugs and prayers your way tonight....

[agathaj]

Sending blessings to you

[SchmennaLeigh]

Leigh; Have you called your therapist?

[kakuehl]

Leigh, know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[thanksgivingmom]

Oh Leigh, I didn't mean for YOU to try to read all of that - you're processing PLENTY enough on your own right now...I meant more for other posters that are trying to understand some of what seems to happen in the bigger adoption picture at that age.

You JUST focus on taking care of you right now.

[Jackiejdajda]

I am so sorry this is happening..


Jackie

[Vogi2002]

This just kills me. I can't believe this. As an aparent who is begging her child's bparent for contact with every letter...I can imagine how belittling this is for you (and you don't get to see your baby every day).

I just don't understand why people do the things they do sometimes. OA is for the good of the child. Will thier be emotions?!? YES!! Of course!! Doesn't mean to SHUT them out completely!!!


I'm so sorry hon....(((((hugs)))))

[taramayrn]

How are you today Leigh??? ((((HUGS))))

[belleinblue1978]

Leigh,

Just wanted you to know that I've been thinking of you. Hang in there!

[lahdh4]

I am now in the stage of Anger. Huge anger.
Worked great with my therapist yesterday. She just asked how I was and I just started.
She asked if I had been online and I told her about this thread and some of the comments and she just laughed when I told her that someone had asked "what did I do?" She just said the same thing I did and I hadn't told her what I wrote yet. This coming from an adoptive parent herself.
Still cannot open the pictures that were sent. Still sitting in her drawer, waiting for when it won't hurt so much.

[lahdh4]

Originally Posted by Vogi2002

This just kills me. I can't believe this. As an aparent who is begging her child's bparent for contact with every letter...I can imagine how belittling this is for you (and you don't get to see your baby every day).

I'm so sorry hon....(((((hugs)))))

Thanks Vogi and to everyone else.

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

Originally Posted by lahdh4

She asked if I had been online and I told her about this thread and some of the comments and she just laughed when I told her that someone had asked "what did I do?"

I'm confused. I went back and re-read every post but didn't see one where you were asked what you did wrong.

I saw where one person suggested you ask the aparents what THEY thought about it all so that perhaps you could find out what THEY thought you did wrong......because they are obviously blaming you for something to have cut off contact......but that doesn't mean any of us here think you have done anything wrong. We don't.

We are all concerned for you and will be praying for a change in your OA. I think we are all trying to help and the words got twisted.

Kim

[JPDakota]

Are you guys talking about me asking what she did to cause this? That's not what I was asking at all. Sometimes there are precursors or other events that indicate that something is coming. For example - have they been more and more reluctant to communicate with her? Or did they move or change jobs or adopt another child or any of a myriad of things? My question was about being blindsided or not. I think being blindsided is particularly cruel. That was my question.